Since when does having a yard sale equal poverty or not being able to raise a child?

Question

I agree that advertising a yard sale to supplement adoption costs is tacky but how does that equate to poverty or not being financially able to raise an adopted child.

Answer 1

Let me guess, you had a fundraiser to get money for your adoption?

One of the first things that leaps out at me, is the manipulation.  Helping someone to adopt with a yard sale?  This is not helping a family get money for chemo for their kid.  This is "we want this--you should feel a little guilty because you have your own kids, now give us $."  Can you imagine what this kid will hear someday?  "I stood out in the hot sun selling old clothes for YOU!"  Oy.

Here's my answer from a similar question earlier this week:

A lot of women GIVE UP their children because they do not have much money, and are convinced (by the agencies and society) that their child will have a better life with their adopters.

How hard is it, really, to save 25K? Not too difficult in the US. I'll tell you how: the couple works full time, and both people live off ONE income for a year. The other could work at Wal-Mart and make 25K/yr. C'mon people!

Now, infertility cannot be controlled, but when couples cry that they don't have the money, it tells me a couple things. They are either not responsible OR resourceful. So how will they pay for college for this child? Have another donation drive? At what point do these prospective parents manage their own wants and desires? If they can't save when they're WITHOUT kids, how will they save with kids?! Hel-lo?

And, (other than illness, disease, or an act-of-God disaster) when is it acceptable for people to ask others to finance things for them? Is it because it's seen as CHARITY for the poor, adopted kids?

Because that thinking is backwards. With ONE healthy, white baby (which is what these folks are quoting prices for) to every 90 couples--who is the charity case? The baby in demand, or the able-bodied adults who can't seem to get it together to do what it takes to earn money for what they want?!

Answer 2

I agree, I know lots of parents who could not come up with thousands of dollars in one lump sum, but the state doesn't deny them rights to raise a child.

Answer 3

like cathrl69 said:

if you're having a yard sale to make more room or something, great.  but advertising it like that makes it seem like you're trying your darnedest to raise money, and if you need to raise money via yard sale (which is not a good vehicle) you might be in trouble when it comes to being able to afford the adoption and your new child.

Answer 4

i want to have a yard sale not because i need to but because i want to get rid of some of the stuff i have and why not get money for it  

Answer 5

If you need to hold a yard sale to cover your costs, you're obviously not exactly rolling in money - and, to me, advertising what a sale is raising money for says "I can't afford to do it otherwise". That said, there's nothing at all wrong in holding a yard sale to make a bit of cash and clear out unwanted items in a greener way than just taking them to the tip.

Answer 6

I don’t see it as problem honestly. If someone needs a yard sale they probably need to get rid of things their not using. If they want to use the profit towards their adoption I see nothing wrong with that.

Answer 7

If you just had a plain old yard sale, then what's the issue here?

If anything you may be saving our land fills some trash.

I'm sure you will donate what didn't sell right?

Now if you publicised your future childs privacy for an adoption yard sale, YUCK, ........then I could see someone having an issue.

It sounds like you did not do that though.

Answer 8

I am of the opinion if you NEED to do a yard sale to make money to adopt, then yes.  By advertising you are adopting, to me implies that you NEED the money.  If you want to do a yard sale thats another thing.

If i or my friends want to get rid of unwanted stuff we always donate to good will.

I know you have personal issues with me but please don't linger on my EVERY word, geez.

Answer 9

Simple; because you're selling your own stuff which makes people think you're poor.

Answer 10

Hey.  I was the one who saw the sign and wrote the question, because it really did jump out at me.

Personally, I don't have a problem with yard sales.  People love to goto them and buy other people's c**p.  I don't think they are a symbol of poverty.

But, I was taken back by the fact that it clearly said "For China Adoption."  ....and I am not sure why.  That is why I asked, perhaps, trying to figure out what I was feeling or thinking about it.

At any cost, it was a good marketing tool, because I noticed it and remembered it.  

Am I going?.... No.  I don't need anymore c**p. LOL

ETA:  LOL at the thumbs down.  There is not even a personal opinion in this post regarding adoption.  Am I getting a thumbs down because I am not going to the sale...I don't have any $$.  LOL

Answer 11

I don't see a problem with it. Think of it as a fund-raiser. It's not like you're having it to pay the bills. People are just too close-minded and judgemental.

Answer 12

My husband and I have plenty of money and we are having a yard sale this weekend. We are smart and economic and not wasteful...so that is probably why we are financially sound.

Add: I don't agree w/ advertising a yard sale for adoption. That is tacky. I think "why" you are having a yard sale should not be advertised. We are just having one to get some money out of our old stuff.

Answer 13

I think advertising that you are having a yard sale to fund your adoption is just playing on peoples sympathies.

Why don't people hold yard sales to help a young struggling mother keep her baby?