Single Mom tossing in the towel?

Question

Why am I getting the cold shoulder from my sister. I have been a single mom for 11 years. My husband walked out on us 11 years ago. I have met a wonderful man 4 years ago and now we are getting married. I get the impression my sister is not happy with it. He has children also, and we have been through a lot in 4 years and me and My kids love this man. I am selling my small house that I did work hard to get and he and I are buying a larger home. My sister thinks I am giving up my independence and looks at it like I am tossing in the towel.

Should I be upset at her?? I wish she would respect my decision and be happy for me. How do I tell her that I will be fine. SHe worries about me because after losing both our parents at a younger age, she tries to still be the Mom. I am 40 now. LOL.

Answer 1

Siblings are often over protective.  She probably has watched you and been there for you through so much stuff since your husband walked out.  She is just scared for you is all.  She is happy for you but true happiness won't set in for awhile till you've been married for a while and she can really get to know this new guy.

Answer 2

Don't worry about is as long as you are happy. She needs to back off -no matter how rude that sounds, it's true

Answer 3

Leave it up to god...if your happy then thats all that matters! God has blessed you with this man! So be Happy, she may not be happy so who cares! Live for yourself, and your children, and the man whom you love and loves you!!

Answer 4

Tell her you love her and appreciate her concern, and that you are not giving up your independence.  You are sharing your life with someone that makes you happy.  She will get over this.

Answer 5

some people have problems when major changes occur in their lives

Answer 6

Then you should be old enough to know better.

Why should you care what she thinks if you are happy?

If she can't be happy do the best you can do grit your teeth and bear it...she is probably jealous.

Either way she is pretty selfish and needs to grow up. haha

Answer 7

Maybe shes not content with her own life and needs to find someone to share the pain.

In theory thats sucks but u should go ahead and not care what she thinks, you only live once so do it the way you want too :)