Single Women...and adoption?

Question

I have a friend who is single and would really like to adopt...she in financially able, has strong faith, doest use drugs etc...all in all would be a great mom....

any web sites i can direct her too???Is it harder to adopt as a single???

Answer 1

No, it is not harder.  But you have to have your ducks in a row!  Keep in mind that most birthmothers will select a stable, married couple.  But some may  choose or be open to a strong, professional woman.  People have their reasons.

For a single woman to show she is strong, able, and can parent just as well as a couple, then she may consider the following:

1.  Have strong family and friend support who will be there for you and the baby and will document that.

2.  Have god male role models for your child and have them pledge their support to you and the baby.

3.  Have proof of your financial strength.  You are it financially and have to show the strength to fully support a child appropriately.

4.  Be as open as you can.  You only want one baby so only need one birthmother to select you, but anyone can increase their chances of adopting by extending their parameters while being realistic.  Example, positive drug screen, rape, etc.

That being said, some agencies will not accept singles.  Check first to see.  More "Christian" agencies will not, but some do.

Here's 2 good resources below as well.  Read, join forums, and talk to other single parents through adoption.  

Good luck!!

Answer 2

I don't think that it is any harder, and she seems to be stable enough. Here's a link:

http://www.infantadoptioninfo.com/single...

Answer 3

YES I THINK IT IS HARDER IF UR SINGLE..my mom called before it was harder..but maybe stuff is alot different plus im in miami n that was along time ago..god bless her for helping a little poor thing..thats like the best choice she can make..i got no website for it but..she should go for it..[=

can u please answer dis if u can

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Answer 4

Although it is harder as a single person, it is by no means impossible!

Go to adoptionattorneys.org and find a local attorney.

Your friend needs to realize that the nultimate decision maker of whether it is difficult or easy is the birth parent(s).  She/they will review all of the profiles that are provided by their attorney and they will decide which one best fits the model of wat they want for the child.  It is impossible to say for certain if it will be easy, but it is not impossible.

Answer 5

Yes, its harder for a single woman to adopt a newborn baby and I believe that it SHOULD be harder.  Two parent families are the optimal situation for a baby.

I think single people can more easily adopt an older child - toddlers, etc.

Answer 6

When an adoption agency places a child for adoption - they prefer to adopt to couples. That insures that the child is taken care of it something happens to one of the parents, etc. Plus, they feel the child would do better in a home where there is a mother and father.

Unless she's Angelina Jolie - she's most likely going to have a hard time adopting as a single parent.

Answer 7

It is not hard to adopt as a single female and there are many sites that can give you lots of information and many books. I'll link them for you.

Oh and "strong faith" is something that is nice but sounds fake if just said and can turn off young women who may see that as closed minded to other opinions.

She cannot adopt from China but other places overseas are still open and adoptions in America are open to her. She could also think about an older child. They need good homes as well.

Answer 8

Lots of agencies have requirements and can be very expensive. I would try using classified ads. (see the ones I attached below) Just make sure to trust your first impressions of someone, do your research, and be careful. Without an agency the cost is way better but you are more prone to scams and liars. Good luck on your journey!

http://www.parents.tk/cgi-bin/classified...

http://www.surrogacy.com/cgi-bin/classif...

http://www.opts.com/cgi-bin/classifieds/...

http://www.allaboutsurrogacy.com/cgi-bin...

http://classifieds.surromomsonline.com/c...

You might have to delete the end of these addresses to get to the website. You might have to start at the home page, click on classified ads, and then begin thee search. Also I think one of these websites want you to setup a user password and logon before allow you to see the classified ads. Good luck on your journey!

Answer 9

there are SO many websites out there.  the best think is for her to find a local adoption agency.  she will need to decide if she wants to adopt domestically or internationally.  All countries have their own rules and regulations.  tell her to get the book "Secret thoughts of the Adoptive Mother".  It's a wonderful book!  Good luck to her!

Answer 10

Do you know what she can do?  Foster parenting.  Single parents can do foster care and get some compensation for it.  If she enjoys doing that, or just happens to love the kid or kids put with her...she can adopt.  It's a wonderful opportunity for her and any child if this is something she's serious about.  She can check out her local courthouses and they can direct her in the right way.

update:   Household certification is called a Homestudy

Answer 11

I've been looking into this too as a single person.  I keep hearing time and time again that it's easier to adopt a preschooler or a child with special needs.  I've heard to stay away from Russian & China because of extreme difficulties.  Guatamala was recommended.  Countries in the Baltic states require a long stay and I haven't heard anything regarding safety.  

The first steps are usually having a household certification (there's a name for this).  With this, they will ask many questions about extended family in case of illness, etc.  She needs to talk to her parents and siblings at length to ascertain their level of support.  Many countries will not strongly consider family support.

Answer 12

If she has such strong "faith", why doesn't she get married if she wants a child? That was how God designed things. There is no shortage of married couples that want to adopt an infant. The last I heard, there was at least a 5 year wait to even be considered to adopt.

High need babies have a harder time getting adopted but I think that raising a high need child is difficult for a married mother and father to raise. God bless the people who do that. I don't see how a single parent could do a good job of it unless she had enough money to hire a nurse to take care of the child when she is at work or away.

The fact that she either doesn't want to get married or is unable to get married because no one wants her, raises a big flag as to whether she would actually be such a good mother.

Answer 13

yes it is harder to adopt is you are single.  they would like to see the child placed with 2 parents.  she should call her local health department to get a list of adoptive agencies in the area.