Single moms - does your baby look like their dad? how do you handle that?

Question

my ex did me dirty. cheated and lied and left when he found out i am having his child. its been really tough doing the pregnancy by myself. he wants no part of us and i have decided that is best. i still hurt every day about what he did to me. what will i do if the baby comes out looking just like him!?! I have so much hate for this man now. I don't want to resent my baby because of him! Is this stupid..? Im worried

Answer 1

my daughter looks just like her daddy and I'm sure this baby will too, and he did me so wrong i cant even list the things its so many! i have NO resentment towards my daughter, she is so beautiful to me and even when she makes the faces he does it doesn't bother me, trust me its fine you most likely wont even think about it all you ll see is you beau til baby

Answer 2

Mine came out the spitting image (yes, the moment he came out, I said "S**t") of his father.  I don't look at him and see anything but me.

It's not stupid to worry about it.  I disliked him while I was pregnant and people told me not to or he would look like him; yeah they were right, but whatever!

U will be so happy, if they baby looks like your ex u won't even care.

Answer 3

I got dumped at 4 weeks ( am now 8) and had this very fear that you have. All I can say is it eventually gets easier and you come to terms with it.  I no longer feel as hateful towards the guy and I realized that the baby will not look exactly like him all though there will be similarities.  You will love your love child unconditionally and remember it has just as much chance of looking like you :)

Answer 4

I have heard people go through a similar situation, and once they have the baby, the mothers have nothing but love for their child. It's the rest of your family you have to worry about resenting the child, if it looks just like him, especially if you have other children that don't.