Single moms out there feel this way?

Question

Are there any single moms out there that ever feel like you're VERY alone sometimes? I mean I love my son with ALL of my heart, but not being in the stable loving relationship with the father does make it much more difficult am I right?

Do you ever feel like you'll never be able to meet anybody?

Don't get me wrong I know it's not impossible to eventually find a nice guy who will care about me and my son, but being human it's hard not to have these feelings sometimes =)

How many of you single moms out there live on your own? Did you apply for subsidized housing?

Answer 1

You can feel like that. It's okay. Life is a struggle. You have to live it and make the best of it.

Answer 2

I feel very lonely...even when something happens, like Brody does something and Im proud, or on the other note..completely spent, I dont have that person to share it with.

I do feel like I'll never meet anybody...and with the relationship of my sons father being so unhealthy..im sure that will play into effect.

I live with my mother right now, I applied back in april and they said they will let me know in october.

I am working full-time now so Im putting money away and hoping to be out of my mothers before my son turns one.

  

Answer 3

yes...

Answer 4

yes i am the same exact way! I know how you feel, i am a single mom of two kids, a three year old girl and a one year old boy and i feel lonely sometimes also! I always feel like i will never meet the right person! I have dated a few times, but the guys are always so wrong for me! I live on my own but i did not apply for subsidized housing, i do it all on my own, i do not ask for any help at all!  

Answer 5

I am a single dad at the moment and feel alone a lot, I love my kids to death yet I need adult conversation as well.

Answer 6

I am a single mom of a 4 year old daughterwho lives with family and shares rent together. Honestely I have not dated since I left my daughter's father because I am afraid that i will end up with another one on my own. I very much feel lonely and would like to date. I don't have the time, energy, or trust for it.

Answer 7

Sometimes I feel very much how you feel now.  I was 'stupid enough' to have two children with a man who was not worthy of my time or energy.  So now, I am a single mom of two beautiful babies without a dad.  It seems that I am very alone often. I sit and look at my kids and know I love them and would never take back their presence, but it is so much harder to have a stable relationship, or even find someone for one, when you already have children. I live on my own, about three hours from my own family, and have been making it mostly on my own.  I live in a nice place, although not subsidized. I just keep thinking it will get better, and I know it will. It will for you too.  I call my friends, or take the kids to the park, when I get sad and lonely.  Sometimes all I need is to hear someone cares about me.

Answer 8

I lived on my own until a week ago, when I moved out of my apartment and into my mom's upstairs apartment, which I'm renting from her because it's cheaper.  I couldn't afford my own place anymore - my son's father is skipping out on support, which means I'm paying $800 a month daycare bill alone, on top of all of our other living expenses.  I didn't apply for subsidized housing because I make too much money.

As for your other question... Yeah, I don't feel like I'm going to meet anyone.  I wouldn't say that I feel alone, because I have a tight family and friend network that is always there for me when I need them.  

I don't feel as if a man should define me and I don't feel I should live my life looking for a dad for my son.  I feel like I need to do the best I can to support my son and be there for him as a mom and as a role model.  He deserves every inch of my attention and he's going to get it.

Keep your head up.  You will be okay.  :)

Answer 9

Yes sometimes it is hard..but I have been divorced for 11 years now...I have 3 boys and a great career...I bought my house 4 years ago and love to do all kinds of things...work in the yard, run my kids all over creation...so I keep pretty busy...I am 5'8", 38, & 148, been told I am very picky and have been know to have a few compliments on my appearance...... I now choose to be I am a social magnet for BUMBS or sorryass men....that is being very ficious.....but yes I have those same thoughts...but i am so over it now...all that seems to be out there now are men that after dating for 6 mos to a year have no earthly idea as to what they want...

Answer 10

Yes, its hard. I have 3 kids and have been on my own for about 6 years. I have dated alot but the guys always end up being jerks. It never works out. I am to teh point where I wonder if I will ever find the right one. It's so tough! I work full time and we just struggle and do without any extras.  

Answer 11

You're a good looking woman, so I don't think you will have much of a problem meeting someone. It will just take time, once your son is a little older, things generally become easier.

Answer 12

i do, but looks like it will be a LONG time before that ever happens. for now I'm good with how things are. i don't even know if id be comfortable being and living with someone else that wasn't my children's father.....i guess. i applied for tax credit housing my rent is 169 $ cheaper then it would have been without applying

Answer 13

Lower your standards in the looks category.  Find an ugly guy that will appreciate you.