Single mother and son sleeping in bed?

Question

i havent had my baby yet....but is there really a problem with having my son sleep in my bed for a few years?

i have a king sized bed....so its not like he'll be ontop of me, quite for away though. i am getting a crib for him...i dont really know why but i am lol.

Answer 1

i have a baby and he slept with me for like 3 days after he was born then he went to his crib. i think you should let him sleep in the crib. im telling you it will be hard on you later!!!!!!

Answer 2

sure, but you're gonna have to make sure he's safe.

could roll off the bed anytime.

:/

Answer 3

not a few years.... try putting him in a crib in your room in a few months...

good luck

Answer 4

It is fine but one day you will want him out and it is VERY hard to break that habit. I did it with my oldest and I was married, and it was next to impossible to get her out.  My advice do not do it past a few months. Better yet put his crib in your room that way he is with you but not in the same bed.

Answer 5

I think it's fine! A lot of people are paranoid about letting their kids sleep with them because they think they will never sleep alone in their life. NOT TRUE. I slept with my mother til I was 8. Weird I know but I felt safe and comfy with my mother because at the time we didn't have a man in the house or in our lives. It was just better for me. I also believe having your child sleep next to you will be a comfort to you! The only thing you should be a bit careful of is laying on him by accident, or if you use a big blanket and it covers his face on accident. But everything else should be fine! Hope I helped! Congrats on the baby too!

Answer 6

I'm a single mom and I co-slept with my son. He's 5 now and still wants to sleep in my bed every night. He falls asleep in my bed and then I move him to his. Sometimes I'm too tired to move him and just leave him there. If the possibility of a 5 year old sleeping in your bed doesn't bother you then go for it. If I could do it over again he'd be in his crib from day one- it would have been so much easier in the long run!! I guess hindsight is 20/20 lol. I don't think there is anything wrong with co-sleeping but the people telling you it will make it harder to transition the kid to his own bed later are right.

Answer 7

get a bassinet and a rocker in your room, it's not worth it especially when the baby gets older you'll regret it... seriously!!!

Answer 8

For 3-6 months fine.... then he needs to sleep alone or it causes all sorts of sleep problems.  The sooner they learn they don't need you to be present to fall asleep, the better off everyone will be.

A CRIB IS NOT NECESSARY by the way... if you have plugs in the outlets and guards on the windows, a crib mattress on the floor is fine for a kid who is old enough to crawl or walk.  He will wake up and start playing with his things, instead of screeching at the top of his lungs for you to free him.  I used my crib (a gift) for such a short time that I felt it was wasted money.

Answer 9

I personally see nothing wrong with it at all. I as well am a single mom to a little guy who is now five and for the longest time we shared a queen sized bed together. Of course there are those people out there who are gonna judge you no matter what you do, but I think its perfectly natural to co-bed. Just be careful as to where the baby is positioned and make sure that you haven't been drinking or taking any medication that could make you sleep heavier then you would normally with the baby in the bed with you and rails for the side of your bed are a great idea so you don't worry so much about him falling off of the bed.

   Enjoy your little guy and don't worry about what others have to say, you and only you know what is best for you and your son!!!

Answer 10

I've done it with both of my boys and love having my baby next to me. I don't worry as much about not hearing him or things like that. As he gets older you'll value those cuddling times as he's falling to sleep, laugh at the numerous times you wake up with a foot in your face...I've just felt better overall doing it this way as long as all the necessary precautions are taken no excess blankets, no sleeping face down, sleeping on their back/side etc..

Answer 11

I have 3 kids and they all had their own beds, but some how they all slept with me their first 2 to 3 years of life. When I introduced them back into their own beds they welcomed it. You have to do this in a loving way not just toss the kid into it's own bed and say goodnight and that's that's. Co-sleeping is not for everyone especially with people who have closed minds or very controlling.  Co-sleeping allows parents and children have a closer relationship and bond closer to one another. So if you want to co-sleep with your baby then do it and don't let other people's negitive comments decide for you....do what you wanna do. If your going to have your baby sleep with you then there is no reason to buy a crib, but you might want to buy a cradle when the baby isn't sleeping with you it needs a place to sleep. You will save some money if you go from your bed to a twin bed when the baby is older like 2 to 3 years old. If you don't want to buy a cradle then consider a all in one play yard.

Answer 12

It is all right. As long as he do not grow too old, it'll be fine.  Good luck.

Answer 13

it should be ok. at least he'll be beside you most of the time. I think 4-5 year he should be trained to sleep by himself, not too far from your bedroom, so you can still keep an eye and get to him fast if anything.

Answer 14

I do not advise this. My mother is a single parent, and she went through h**l to get both me and my brother out of her bed. She just didn't care enough at first, and then later on we both got used to it. This went on for years and years, sometimes even when we were tweens we'd go in after a nightmare. Now she is used to it, and she'll often ask if I'd mind sleeping in the bed, or if my brother would. It doesn't matter how big the bed is, its how big the problem gets.

Answer 15

My first slept with us when he was born. We had such a horrible time getting him into his own bed that his baby sister was sleeping alone before he was. It's a nightmare to get the baby to sleep on their own after co-sleeping because they feel like you're abandoning them. If I could only give one piece of advice to any new parent it would be to use the crib.

Answer 16

Many believe in co-sleeping, but the longer you let the child stay in bed with you the bigger the nightmare when they need to have their own room.  I would say for the first few months is OK (especially if nursing and needing sleep), but in my humble opinion, you're opening yourself up to many problems in his future years.

Answer 17

I would say it really depends on how you plan on raising you child. If you plan on sending the baby to daycare at all you might want to consider having him sleep alone after 3 months or so. This way you can get the sleep you need to for the first few months, but after that if you are going back to work & he will be in daycare, the day care provider won't be sleeping with him so he will have to learn to sleep alone.

I say this from experence. My nephew sleeps with his parents and when I have him, he does not like to sleep alone. I can not lay down and sleep with him every time he needs to nap & it makes it really hard to get him to nap for the amount of time that he should.

Edit:

my other sister tried co-sleeping when her baby was born and found that every time he moved or made a noise, she woke up and then realized that neither of them were sleeping very well. So she moved him to his won bed and he has slept there ever since. He is not 3 and a half and will come into her bed sometimes inthe middle of the night, but thats about it.