Single mother... who decided to raise child by themselves?

Question

If you think this is personal women don't answer.... did you want to raise your child on your own... or did you not have a choice?

when you found out you were pregnant... and you knew the father was not gonna be there... did you consider abortion or adoption... if so, what changed your mind? were you looked down upon by co-workers, friends and family? did your family eventually understand why you decide to raise child without a mate? do your child get a chance to see their other parent frequently? What did your family think when you told them you were pregnant and not getting married?

I was having a conversation about pregnancy and how they told their significant other and their families and also what happened during the pregnancy... and what made them decide that they would rather raise their child by themselves than with the boyfriend or significant other and I've notice with my friends ... who have children (which is most of them, except 3 friend and myself) decided to either raise the child on their own or found out that their childs father was on a different agenda or didnt want to take responsibility.... none of my friends with children thought about abortion but said that the significant others did..... when they told their family they were pregnant their parents were pissed and mind you most of my friends are now graduates of colleges... but I can say the ones with children are more responsibile and more mature than the ones without children

Answer 1

Well I'm a single mum and so far I'm doing okay... I had my first child when I was 25 my family were stoked for me, the father and his family just ignored the fact, but I didnt mind because I was going to be a mum. I did it on my own and still doing it on my own...

i got pregnant again to a different guy and he wanted me to have an abortion, I told him where to go and again I decided that I will do this on my own.

As I said I seem to be doing ok, my kids are healthy and happy and cared for... I dont think I would be able to do it with a partner around becasue it would be hard for me to split myself in 3 and he'll need as much if not more attention than my kids.. I love my kids and want them to have my attention more because they deserve it more... Is that being selfish?

Answer 2

I was taught that children are never mistakes they are gifts from God.  I have always been pro choice not wanting to make a decision for someone else but I was offered the abortion by a friend that was trying to help and I knew right then that I couldn't.  9 years later I am still single-but never regretted the decision to raise him on my own.

Answer 3

You know its very coicidental cause I just wrote something yesterday on here that i think may help you:

Why are "pro choice" ers so touchy??

I have seen a few questions on here about abortion, and everytime that I say what I think about abortion, I have all these prochoicers giving me thumbs down. Why is everyone so touchy when a "pro lifer" has something to say? Is it guilt? I had just turned 21 when I had my daughter, I left her father when I was 3 months pregnant and it was the hardest thing that I did, because I didn't want to be alone, but I couldn't have fighting around my child, and If I were to continue living with him and fighting I feared that the stress would cause me a miscarraige. I love my daughter sooo much. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. She gave ME a reason to LIVE!! I suddenly had direction in my life when I found out that I was pregnant with her. I went from having nothing, no drivers license, no job, and only a highschool diploma and an administrative certificate to having one more year left to getting my bachelors, a license, my own place to live, and I have been alone ever since. I've done this all by myself (no family help even), and my daughter is happy. Her father chose to have nothing to do with her, and completely deny her, but she is the sweetest, loving, caring and little beauty. I am just so amazed that I had the "choice" to kill her...that makes me very sad. :( I wanted to write this today because you can't give me a thumbs down this way...and just to let many of you know, after preparing for my persuasive speech in public speaking, I found out sooo much more about abortion. That the unborn baby can feel things after just 21 days. I don't know if any of you know what abortion does but the abortions that are still legal in this country, are hurrendous methods and painful to the unborn fetus, embryo whatever you want to call it. The only reason why we know this is because scientists have researched "nerves" in the human body, and that is what has been found. I just feel that it is selfish.

Look at my daughter with her little giggle and that cute button nose, can you believe that I still had a choice???

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