Sister's ex.. Is it wrong of me to talk to him? Long story sorry..?

Question

My sister broke up with her bf about a wk and a half ago after 7 years of being together.She moved back home and She has already moved on in fact the new guy is a lot of the reason why she left her ex. Well i feel really bad for him he is such a nice guy and gave her everything but because he didn't want to get married yet she moved on. We [her ex and i] have recently started talking a lot more in the past 2 days and he said i am still always welcome to go hang out over there and me and my cousin can go swimming whenever we want. Would it be wrong of us to go over there since he is my sisters ex? My sister has been lying to everyone and playing tons of games. Like she would cuddle with her ex then come over here and be with the new guy and say oh he is an a**hole and hes being so mean when really hes not. I don't really like my sister she is such a B***h and always lies bout me and everyone else she can but still should i hang out with her ex? Everything is very complicated and hard and its a long story on whats all going on but i really just need to know if its wrong of me to be talking to him and possibly hanging out with him..I am 100% on his side and not my sisters i think what she is doing is wrong and very rude. She is playing everyone and idk what i should do. I kind of really want to tell the new guy how she is and that shes been lying but i dont know if i should get involved. I dont really want to hurt my sister but this just isn't right and i dont like seeing her ex hurt and seeing the new guy think everything she says is true. What do you think? Should i tell him what i know? Should i hang out with her ex? Should i still be here for her ex? Should i tell her ive been talking to her ex? Really confused and lost on this whole situation please help! Nothing mean please!! Thanx =]

Answer 1

Hmm, tough situation! Dont lie to anyone, dont go behind anyones back, be his friend, be her sister, dont talk to them about eachother.

Trust me, you dont want to be in the middle of this sort of stuff.

If he came to you and asked you a direct question, answere it honestly. But do not get yourself stuck in the middle.

It will come back to bite you in the a** !

Answer 2

stay out of this mess and stay away from your sisters ex shes your sister and as much as she is a ***** this could cause alot of problems in the family

Answer 3

confront your sister tell her what u think but do not tell her ex partner anything as u do not no what was going on behind closed doors. when u say u want to hang out hopefully you dont mean on an intimate level as that would b wrong. and i know u like your sisters ex but you have no need to b hanging out with him it will only bring trouble. call him up every now and again to see if he ok. try not to worry and become to involved in your sisters life.

Answer 4

If you are concerned with the way your sister is acting, talk to her.  It's a really bad idea to have any sort of relationship w/ her ex w/out her consent.  Men come and go, but a sister is forever

Answer 5

Sounds like your sister is a b***h for leaving him just because he wouldn't get married right that second that's a little juvenile. If you are just being friends with him i see no harm in hanging out or talking to him. Your sister would be very upset and hurt to know that you are choosing him over her though and that you are talking to him. I think its your call on what to do though if you feel like your in the wrong then you should stop but if you truly feel like your sister screwed up and you are helping her ex but not getting with him dating wise then continue. It could be good for him to have a friend like that there for him and im sure it makes him feel good knowing that you still like him even though him and your sister are no longer together. As for the new guy i think he has a right to know what she has been doing but then its up to you on if you want your sister mad at you because you broke her and the new guy up. I think you are in bad territory and should probaly just step out but then i also think your in the right and have the right to step up and do what you feel is right. It is a hard choice to make since it is your sister. She is the one doing all the wrong though and karma is a b***h so whatever goes around comes around. Do what you feel is right though. I think you should tell your sister you are talking to him just dont go into detail and say your sorry but you are going to continue its best you tell her befor she finds out. And i think you should have a talk with the new guy and just let him know you know some stuff on your sister and you think he should know but you in know way want to harm their relationship. And as for you and your cousin i think you have a right in being friends with him and going over there and having a friendship there is nothing wrong in being FRIENDS!

Hope i helped and good luck!  

Answer 6

No matter how mean she is or what you think she is doing wrong in her personal relationships, you should never choose her ex over her. She is your sister, and one day you are going to need her to be there for you. Plus, there are 2 sides to every story and relationship. She is probably not telling you everything, and all you are hearing is his sob story. So she got a boyfriend right after she broke up with her ex. As her sister you should be more worried about her happiness than her ex's happiness. You need to tell him that you don't think it is appropriate for you guys to be talking anymore. Your sister would be really upset if she ever found out, and if the tables were turned so would you. One day you may be in the same, or a similar situation as her, how would you feel if she was still talking to your ex? As much as you don't like her, you love her.