Sister I never knew about?

Question

I was going through my dads phone (his texts and such), I found one to my mom, they are separated, and it was saying how he saw this thing on tv about a woman finding her daughter she put up for adoption 20 yrs before. and he said "..it reminded me of yah know..." she said "i know..." then he said he was going to look her up and stuff.

Do think its me being paranoid or its it loud and clear!?

They put up a girl for adoption and never told anyone?

but, how, why?

Should I ask about it???

I'm a bit mad that they would lie...

how should I approach this....

Answer 1

Try not to jump to conclusions. You kind of got yourself into a pickle by going through his texts in the first place.

Bite the bullet and ask him about it. there might be a harmless and reasonable explaination

Answer 2

Just ask them. They're your parents. If you don't want to, you could always say things like.. "oh I wish I had a sibling. It would be nice to have a sister." But I do think that being straight forward and asking is the best way. If you don't want to ask you dad you can always ask your mom by texting or something. Another way would be to use you dad's phone to text your mom but honesty is the best policy. This could be your sister so you have a right to know. Good luck!

Answer 3

be straight forward with them and ask..They still may not tell you the truth.  that is when you tell them that you were snooping and saw the message,   let them know you want them to be straight with you.  don't let them know you are angry at them for keeping this from you.  but let them know you will be angry if you find out it is true and they did not come clean with it.  you probably could find out info on your own on the internet before confronting them.    there are a lot of sites that have boards where people are looking for their parents who gave them up.

There are many reasons why a parent would give up a child.  so don't be to judgemental on your parents.  They might have been to young, they may have had parents that made them give the child up. years ago it was not accepted to have a baby out of wedlock.

good luck in you search for the truth.

Answer 4

just be real clear about it.

if they ask if you were going through their texts.. don't lie. just say yes.

they have to tell you sometime/

if they get really mad who cares?

as teenagers its our duty to occasionaly make our parents pissed off.

i hope you can find out if you do have a sister =]

Answer 5

Sounds like they could have put up a baby for adoption.  Ask your father casually about it, try to not let him know that you read his text messages that wouldn't be a good thing becaue he will be curious what else you do behind his back.  Could you ask a grandmother or grandfather instead?  

Good Luck  

Answer 6

yes!! that is wrong to put up someone for adoption if they were grown up to have s*x and get pregnant they should of been grown up to take care of the little girl too. they are idiots no matter what happens you dont do that to an innocent child..

Answer 7

yws go ask them.

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Answer 8

They could have put up a baby for adoption and never told anyone. Or they could know someone who put a baby up for adoption or someone who WAS put up for adoption at birth. You might be reading too much into this or you could be right. There's not harm in asking. Tell your dad you saw a text on his phone and your just curious if you could have a sibling you never knew about. I read a text on my moms phone and thought I was adopted but didn't bring it up. When I finally confronted them about it, it turns out they knew someone who was adopted t birth and never told anyone. You wont know until you ask.

Answer 9

yoou have all the rights in the world to ask about it. Jut let them know that you herd them taking , and that you know something about it . That you want to know some details. Don't be upset when you talk to them. Good luck to you!

Answer 10

just ask them??? no i would not ask them...

firstly why were you going through his phone...

im not trying to be cruel

Its nice to see that even though you parents are split up they can still talk about stuff that is personal to them.. if there is a child/sister out there you know now that he still thinks about this and feels the need to find her... when they are ready to search for her im sure they will tell you... if you go now and ask him who, when why you may scare him off  from finding her out of fear of all the explaining he will have to do...

show him that you support him by supporting him in this time like the seperation...if your an only child ldrop hints like that it would have been nice to have a sibling to share your feeling on the split even though ur parents are not together...maybe that will give him thought that even though parents may want to find there child but the siblings have aright to know each other... i wish you luck and to ur parents ..