Sister relationship: should I be mad?

Question

okay me and my sister are really close...we tell each other everything...lately she hasn't been feeling well..she didn't get her period since may 28 and she was asking me to help her calculate the days that she was late...and she said she had to go to the doctor because it can't be that she' s pregnant...then tonight she left her answers account open and i saw a question that she asked on here about her being pregnant...she lied to me..now i feel hurt that she kept this from me...i feel like she can't trust me or something...should i ask her about it? should i be mad?

Answer 1

ya if u think u r really close den ask her...

Answer 2

no don't confront her. let her come to you. she's probably just scared. and she's just trying to figure things out on her own. if you must let her know that you are here for her and will help in any way possible. don't be mad at her for being scared.

Answer 3

No, you shouldn't be mad. She doesn't *have* to tell you everything about her life.  She has a right to privacy and she has a right to have ‘secrets’.  You need to respect that.

If she told you that she “can't” be pregnant then yes, she obviously lied to you, but does it really matter?  No, it doesn't.  It was not a lie that had the potential to cause damage.  And *everyone* at some point in their life has lied about something.

Don't ask her about it.  If she wants you to know she'll tell you.

Answer 4

I feel your heart. She is your sweet sister, that is a fact, beside that she is a girl with her own thoughts and life. Even though you are so close and share all, she n u have different hearts, different nose, different many more things... right???

She was using her own freedom. Now she might have lied, but she still is your sweet sister. Be a brother than getting mad. Ask her, lets see how she will respond. :-)

Answer 5

i think that u shouldn't feel mad u can but u should look at it from her perspective, pregnancy is a big thing and maybe she is just going through allot of stress because of that possibility so don't be mad just be there for her  

Answer 6

yeaa i would be mad to, she should be able to tell you.

Answer 7

No you shouldn't be mad. She may be feeling a bit overwhelmed with the news of an unexpected pregnancy, and didn't want you to shoulder the responsibility of such a heavy load.  I think you might be feeling hurt because she didn't share the news with you but rather shared it with strangers on the internet.  If she is older than you she may feel she isn't putting a good example in front of her little sister. You don't say how old you two are or if she still lives at home, but I am guessing you two are in your teens and still living at home and she is going to have to tell your parents at some point.  Give her some time and space, and maybe let her know that even if she is pregnant you are still there for her and she can divulge that information to you when she is ready.    

Answer 8

I have a sister, so I know how that feels.  But in reality, it's not your place to ask or be mad.  I know that sisters share everything, but she still has a right to her own privacy, to tell you what she wants and not tell you what she wants.  If you want to be a good sister, tell her that you are concerned about her and will support her no matter what she's going through.  Let her know that you're there for her and then give her time to tell you what's going on.  It's her choice, not yours.