Sister went to collage, help me?

Question

My older sister went to college this weekend, and I miss her so much. She is my absolute best friend, and now she's gone. My dad isn't living with me so it's just my mom and I here now, and my mom is gone a lot of the time, and that's when my sister would be home with me. She always helps me with my friends, and homework, and she's the nicest sister i could ask for. I'm starting high school in a week, and she's not here to help me. I'm just really sad about her being gone and I don't know how to deal with it. I cry every day, and I can't take it anymore.

Answer 1

Why don't you write letters to your sister. You can write down everything you would tell her if she was there, like a journal that you share with her. I think she would like getting letters like that very much while she's away. Letters are better than email because you can make them longer if you want and put a lot of thought into them.

Answer 2

oh that sucks i know how u feel:( my brother went to college in ottawa and he helped me with everything and i felt lost without him!.

if i were u i would invite friends over

do anything u can to take ur mind of it!

u can call her she might be able to invite u over

its fine no worries!

Answer 3

try not to worry all the time, or think about her being gone, i know it'll be tough atleast for the first couple of months, or atleast until u start HS, but eventually you'll get used to her being gone, who knows she'll be home before u know it, like for the holidays and stuff.

Answer 4

It's ok - it will get better!  She is probably very busy at college right now making new friends and getting settled...but just call her and ask if she has time to talk!  During your time that you are sitting around bored, you can make her a care package.  It is just a box full of snacks and little gifts (like cute socks or things along those lines).  Write her a nice letter and put it in the box and then mail it to her.  It is exciting to get packages at college and I'm sure it would not only make her day but also help to occupy your time while you are at home missing her.

Answer 5

Well girl, it is a part of growing up because people do come and go. It is okay to feel the way that you do! Do not let it get you down to much because there is email and the phone. You can always keep in touch with her and I know she would want that because you two are obviously so close. I can see how you starting high school without her is tough, I would be really sad as well, just remember that she is still in your life and even though she is not there with you physically, she is with you in your heart so email her or text her! I know she will be there for you even though she is away. Take care :)

Answer 6

Sorry Kim but that is a part of life, you and your sister can find lot of ways to communicate, via net, phone, etc with technology there is endless possibilities of communications, just cherish the memories that you have from when your sister was home. She is only a phone call away, a drive, a plane ride, etc. Focus on school. Good luck.

Answer 7

omg my brother just went to college two days

ago and he is my best friend he gets me through everything

and he is the best.

i live in texas and he goes to a college in california.

when we dropped him off at the school i didnt cry at all

or show any emotion, and weeks before he left he would joke

with me and go "bye" "see you latter" "your gonna miss me right?" and i would just laugh and shrug it off.

now its been two days since we dropped him off and i cry every

single night, and every single moment.

and now its just me, my mom, and dad, also the foreign exchange student who isnt helping at all. plus my mom goes to work every single day, and i feel like i have no one anymore.

right now im tearing.

Answer 8

Call her, talk to her daily.

Email her, send her letters.

And don't worry, high school will be JUST FINEEEE!

Answer 9

Find a new friend, pet, or hobby to put your energy to. Find someone you can even talk to online for advise and guidance. You're starting high school. You'll probably make a ton of friends and be so busy with activities and/or sports, etc, that the pain will go away. You can still email her, call her on the phone, mail her. It's not over! But now is the time that you will start becoming more independent anyway. You're only alone if you let yourself be. There are plenty of people your age in your neighborhood even that you can be friends with.

Answer 10

I am so sorry.  This is really going to hurt.  But the reason it hurts so much is because the two of you are so close and love each other so much.  That is amazing!  Here is the good news.  The pain will lesson.  I swear it well.  Just hang in there.  More good news.  Unless she is unlike every other college student, she is probably feeling the same way.  She has lost you being close and everything else she knows!  Try the following tools and you will be better in no time.

1.  Tell yourself this is normal.  Be sad, cry and miss her as much as you want.  Talk to people who care about you and get support.

2.  Keep a journal.  Write it all down.  Every feeling,etc.  Write down special memories(even though they make you sad.)

3. Email and talk to your sister often.

4.  For as much as you are sad, your sister is probably just as sad and even more scared because she is heading into new territory as an adult.  Remember that.  You are not alone.

5.  Take a break from being sad and help your sister.  Going away is really hard.  Try this.  Write a note or thought or call your sister every day at first.   Try to send her one memory a day.  Funny stories you shared.  Ask for advise as you enter high school.  She should know the ropes, right?  Tell her specifics about your life.  "You know what happened with our weird neighor, Bob?"  that will help your sister feel closer to you, too.

You will get through this, okay?  Its so so so so hard!  But perfectly normal and a sign of the special relationship you share with your sister.  As you get used to this and get used to high school you will learn that nothing nothing nothing will get in the way of your relationship with your sister as long as the two of you work at it.  

Keep at it and be proud that you and your sister have such a special relationship.

Answer 11

Its a part of life. I know it sucks. My sister got out of high school went to a community college a few minuets down the road but stayed home. Now she's moving out. I'm going to miss her a bunch but I'll still be able to see her and call her.

If you miss her call her, email her or write her a letter.

Don't worry you'll get through this. I had I think half a month to accept that my sister was going to move out THIS week. :-)

If you need someone to talk to I'm available. So just email me.