Sisters' friend eats here all the time?

Question

my sisters (11 and 13, I'm 20) always have their friend over, she ALWAYS eats here, she stays here basically all day, when my sisters go out or my parents bring carry out food she always gets some, basically it's as if she lived here.

I don't mind having her here, or even giving her food sometimes, but to give her food all the time to the point she opens our fridge like it's hers is too much for me.

I kind of let her know today when my sisters bought her mcdonalds and asked them "what does she ever give you?" I felt bad but at the same time I felt i needed to say it.

How do I deal with this?

Answer 1

wow ask her if anythings going on at home or tell her to eat healthier it'l stop the cravings

hope this helps :)

Answer 2

It was stunningly bad etiquette on your part to make that remark in front of her.  She is a guest.  Even if she is a bad guest, she is a guest nonetheless.  

You do have the right to talk to your parents (not your sisters, none of you are in charge in the home) about how this particular guest makes you feel.  Perhaps they haven't noticed how intrusive she has become.  Or maybe they really don't mind her being there.  If it is the former, suggest they talk to her parents about her being there so much, or that they simply tell her when it is time to leave (she apparently doesn't realize when she's worn out her welcome).  If it is the latter, you'll either just have to deal with it or move out...you are old enough to do that now.

Whatever you do, be patient.  She is just a little girl and you are a grown woman.

Answer 3

Perhaps her parents don't provide a decent meal or homelife for her... It's up to your parents, not you to say anything.. just put it out of your mind.

Answer 4

The question is....who's raising her? Your family or her's? Looks like your parents have one more child to raise.

Answer 5

Are you buying the food? Do you parents mind? She may not have food at her house, if she did she would probably eat there.Why does it bother you so much? You are 20, really? really? What a petty thing to complain about, let it go.

Answer 6

Talk to your sisters and parents about this...does it bother them? If it does, make a plan together to KINDLY get rid of her. When it is meal time, nicely tell her it is time for your family to eat dinner and she needs to go home. If this doesn't bother anyone else in the family, I would say there is not much to do by yourself, because she is not your guest.

Best of luck, whatever happens! :)

Answer 7

If your parents are buying the food and they don't mind, then you should mind your own business. When I was 11..well, basically till I was 15.. I would have my friends over all the time, one of which would make her way directly to the fridge and grab food because she felt like family. And she was like family. I did the same exact thing at her house, too.

Answer 8

Where in the  world is this kid's parents.  If you can find out why the child is allowed to be at your house all the time. You may find it less annoying that she is there.

Answer 9

It seems the friend doesn't want to go home because something is happening there like abuse. Either physical or sexual. Something is happening. Ask your sisters what is it. Maybe they can find out slowly but surely. Until then,don't worry about the food.

Answer 10

As for you minding, I can understand you feeling like this kid is taking advantage of your family. So the rest of the comments here about that should stop.

But you should talk to the rest of your family about it. Perhaps something is going on that you aren't aware of and you wouldn't want to make her feel unwelcome if that's the case.

But just because she mooches food and hangs out all day does NOT mean she is being abused. It could be that she indeed is just a mooch.  Amazing how EVERYTHING leads back to someone being a victim.

If it isn't your money and your house and your not paying for her, most are right. There isn't much you can do. But I would ask your family and see what they think. Be careful, you don't want them to think your shunning their friend.