Sisters separated - My daughter is upset?

Question

My daughter and I found out about three years ago she has a sister that is six months older than her (both girls was attending the same preschool and we did not know they were sisters.) When we found out about each other, we all got along real well and started spend alot of time together. We hung out all the time, going places and letting the kids get to know each other for almost two years. My daughter's father is absent in her life, he does not know her. He only met her twice. But he is an active father in her sister's life.

Well this past Christmas, the other mother decides to get back with our daughter's father. I am ok with that - I have been in a relationship for over three years now and my boyfriend takes excellent care of my daughter. She calls him dad.

The problem I have is now her biological father has made the other mother cut all ties with us. My daughter does not get to see her sister or talk to her sister anymore. I called her sister mother, she does not answer my calls and won't return my messages. Recently her phone number has changed.

This has affected my daughter alot. Everyday she ask when is she going to get to see her sister, can we go over her sister house etc...I try to explain the situation to her but she is six years old!

Does anyone have any advice on what I should say or do? How do I explain to a six year old that her father is a jerk and does not want her to be around her sister.

It might helps to explain that her real father is very abusive (physical and mental.) I was able to overcome it but the other baby's mother is still under his control. What do I do? Please Help.

Answer 1

If it is at an illigel and dangerous point to the other mother you could call the cops, there really isnt anything you can do to stay in close contact it seems but i would keep an eye on the situation make sure that your daughters sister and her mother for that fact arent in physical or mental danger of the father im not saying tail him but just keep an eye out on them as for your daughter she is  six  and although it is sad that she will not be able to grow up with a sister she seems to have a happy life when you adopted her you did not expect for her to have biological sister in her life and i suppose  this isnt horrible. she is six she wont remember too much its ok to explain as much as you can to her so as she grows up she will be smart and understand and not be held in the dark one day when both of them are in charge of their own life they can be apart of each others lives however for know you can not change it  

Answer 2

In reality all you can do is gently break this to your daughter. Explain that your not able to get ahold of her sister or her sisters mom. That you cant schedule a time to see each other because of that. You can't force someone to have a relationship with your child. If her mother or father no longer wish to have contact with your child that is their choice. Its also their loss.  

Answer 3

How could you not have known your daughter has a sister? How did you not know you gave birth twice?