Sisters who became lovers..?

Question

if they were adopted and seperated and later found each other again as adults?

I don't know how often this happens but I recently answered a question about this and I basically wished the asker well. I'm not sure how I feel about it (uncomfortable) but I didn't want her to be upset and I don't think she is a bad person at all. I think it is the situation and it's not the same as if they had grown up together.

What do you think? Would you consider this wrong?

Answer 1

It is unnatural, a persons body chemistry is normally designed to not find family members attractive.  Though there was a study that showed during certain parts of a womans menstrual cycle, and pregnancy the need for a secure family environment can make the biochemistry of family members attractive.  

You could very well have the situation here where they have deviant bio-chemistry.  Do I think this is wrong?

Let me ask you this, do they love each other and enjoy each others company?  Find happiness with one another, and function well?  Then no, not at all, it most certainly is not wrong.  

But I think what you might be asking is more "Is this normal, or explainable without simply saying they are insane?"  Well...  I don't know, but does it matter?  Frankly I think the biggest issue here is they are going to have a great deal of security with each other, and that might make for an amazing relationship.  Being attracted to each other may just be a natural step from there.

Answer 2

Sounds kinda like a Greek tragedy.

I would think that anyone who found out they were loving their own flesh and blood (after having been adopted into seperate families?  Did I read that right?)  would cease as soon as they knew.

Answer 3

not a good idea

Answer 4

No not at all everyone has different ways of loving. Yes it does make you cringe a bit but as long as they wernt blood related there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 5

How awful for them. Yeah, I would feel uncomfortable about it also, so imagine how they must feel. It certainly speaks to the need for open records and open adoption.

Is it "wrong"? Well, if they didn't know about it up front and were not raised together and did not think of each other as sisters, then it wouldn't morally be incest to my thinking. I mean you'd have to know for it to be immoral. And since they are both female, they wouldn't have the problem of conceiving a child together, so that consideration wouldn't pertain. So, um, I guess I'm talking  myself into thinking that it isn't wrong. Or at least that they did nothing wrong. But I also don't think I would continue it, if it were me, though who could know.

But how heartbreaking! I mean of course they have an affinity for each other, and also if they were both adopted by non-relatives and grew up not knowing someone else who was "like" them, and then met and recognized something in each other that drew them together. And then to find out they were sisters -- oh, I don't know how they could go on from there, I truly don't and it is just heartbreaking for them. My heart truly goes out to them.

I have heard of other cases, some where the siblings (opposite s*x) actually married (one last year in the UK, I think). It is rare, but even one case is too many. We need to have open records so adopted people can know who they are!

Answer 6

The thought of it seems "un-natural" to me but I don't think it is necessarily wrong. It isn't like they intentionally set out to find a sibling to become intimate with.

I have always wondered about people that donate sperm. This is all supposedly done anonymously, so just think of the possibilities of meeting or even falling in love with someone you are biologically related to. It is kinda creepy when you really think about it!

Answer 7

This is a commonly known condition called 'genetic sexual attraction', where siblings of either s*x meet up, after being separated in childhood, and are sexually attracted to one another. There was a recent example in the media where a brother and sister who had been adopted separately, met up and fell in love. Their marriage had to be annulled when the link was discovered.

This attraction can work whatever the s*x of the two individuals.