Six week old baby and still depressed.?

Question

This has been a very hard pregnancy for me, in the past year my mom has past away, and I am in the middle of a very messy divorce. I am felling very alone my soon to be ex husband wants nothing to do with the baby which is fine because he is very abusive and hateful, but this is my 4th child and I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks after my mom passed. She was the best grandmother in the world, and I am so glad my older kids got to know her . But I feel like such a failure as a parent because my baby has no one but me and I feel like I don't messure up, to what he needs, I never really knew my father and my husbands parents don't believe this is there grandchild and also want nothing to do with him. I was very close to my grandmother until she passed in may of last year and could not even dream of growing up with out her, and all I can think about is my poor baby has no one. I feel really enbarrest to talk to my doctor about this what should I do, will this feeling go, if so when?

Answer 1

Well it sounds like your son has a great mother so he is not alone!

I am so sorry for all you have been through this past year. You should talk to your doctor. I know how embarassing it can be, I have been there. But, please don't do what I did! I took to long to get to my doctor and I just got worse. It got to the point I didn't even want to get out of bed in the morning. Going to the doctor was the best thing I could have done. It was the best thing I did for my kids. And, IF they go as far as putting you on pills like they did me don't think it will be forever. My son is 14 months now and I have been better since he was 6 months.

I hope you can get some support from someone. Lean out to a friend, co-worker, relative.....take care of yourself!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss!! You didn't say where you are, so I couldn't do research, but if you don't feel comfortable seeing your doctor, go to your phone book and use one of the many free or scale-priced phone and in-person counselling services that are available in most jurisdictions. You can get confidential advice from trained volunteers or counsellors, and hopefully they can help you develop a course of action.

It's totally not wrong or bad to still be grieving - and there are free bereavement support groups and counselling as well!! You might also want to utilise some of the services for single mums that are available - you might find comfort in shared experiences.

Answer 3

It's a difficult for any woman, six weeks after having a baby and with your added grief to deal with as well as relationship problems, you must be feeling it bad.

All your baby needs is a loving parent and you will surely provide  that. I agree that talking to someone might help you deal with everything you're going through. You really need not deal with this on your own.

Good luck and give your baby a big kiss

Answer 4

It sounds like you have traveled a rough road.  Do not be too proud to ask for help when it sounds like you really need it.  Everyone needs someones help sometime.  Maybe you wouldnt feel as alone.  You and your kids have eachother and I strongly believe that is what is going to get you through this.  As far as the ex, I wouldnt even waste the tears.  Make sure he cuts you a check every month for child support and go about your business.  I am sure that you will meet a decent guy that has potential of being a male role model and will do it without causing you such a headache.  You'll be okay, stay strong, and dont be afraid to ask for help.

Answer 5

Your baby is lucky to have a great Mom like you!!  Do this for your baby, you really need to go talk to your Doctor.  It will be the best choice for you, your baby and your other children.  It will be OK, these feeling will pass.

I am very sorry for your loss of your Mother and Grandmother.

Take Care.

Answer 6

You have a lot on your plate right now and it's clear why you would be upset. You are strong and you must do what is right by you and your children.....you can do it all alone but it takes some work and determination. Best of luck, things will look brighter!

Answer 7

i had post pardem depression for a yr after i had my last son, and i feel like sometimes it still is even there..  best thing to do, is just stay busy.

as far as your son goes, he has YOU, and you obviously love him, thats all he needs!

Answer 8

I had a rough time after I had baby #1 I caused my marriage to almost end because I was so wacked out you should see your doctor they can put you on a med that will fix it in just a few months Take care of yourself your baby needs you and dont be ashamed to go to the doctor to get some help they see it all the time. Congrats!!! and Good Luck!!!