Six year old worries about killing someone.?

Question

My six year old grandson says troubling things when he is upset like he thinks about killling someone. Useually says these things when he is upset about discipline or dissapointments. He doesn't thow a tanturm just says he thinks about it and makes him worry. Is this normal?

Answer 1

My son is 7 and has an autistic spectrum disorder and he sometimes says these things.  He is emotionally labile and says them when upset, however he doesn't understand the seriousness of what he is saying.  He does not take medication.

I think because your grandson worries about killing someone makes it different.  I think that it raises a bit of a red flag and I would take him to see someone.  But I don't think it is as serious as other responders make it out to be.  Because he is only six, he is showing alot of self-control and restraint by not physically acting out.  So there goes a possibility of conduct disorder, he doesn't have that.  Because he knows what he is saying is very wrong by worrying about it, he isn't anti-social personality disorder.  He probably doesn't have a plan and isn't imagining plunging scissors into someone and seeing the blood squirt out.  It could be depression or bipolar.  I don't think he is in danger of hurting anyone, and he isn't psychotic, or a sociopath but something could be going on.  It could be normal, but I would check it out

Answer 2

mmm he should see someon he can trust, and someone who can help

Answer 3

No, that is not normal. Take him to the pediatrician or try to get him into counselling or a psychologist for an assessment. Something else seems to be wrong and it's important to to find out what before something serious happens.

Answer 4

no not at all

go to a counselor now

Answer 5

Time to call the professinals.

Answer 6

yea man - my 6yo says a lot of wierd stuff like that too. i think they are contemplating a lot of stuff at this age, you know life/death, heaven stuff like that. i just try to talk to my son and explain how precious life is. and explain that killing is wrong. he has really hit me with some bombers lately. yesterday he said 'mom, can i kill you?" my wife said "What?!?" he said "oops, i mean, can i have something to drink." i think your grandson is normal. but those questions still catch me off guard! Also, once recently, my son got frustrated with the heat and being tired and had an emotional meltdown and said "i don't deserve to live!" kids dont know how to cope with their feelings like we do. dont worry. hope this helps you realize that your grandson is normal and all prerents/grandparents experience this! good luck!

Answer 7

I would get him in to see someone as soon as possible. It might just be a flawed way of thinking, but if it is something more and he does something, it will have dire consequences.

It is not "impossible" for a 6 year old to understand death. They have a different understanding that we do as adults, but if the do something to cause the death of someone else - that person is still dead!!!

Please get him some help

Answer 8

my cousin is 6 and 6 year olds shouldn't even KNOW about killing people. if someone in their family has passed, then this might be semi-normal, but other than that, that isn't normal.

Answer 9

noooo see a counsler!

Answer 10

From what i've learned, it is almost impossible for a 6 year old to understand death. Perhaps he's more afraid of the punishment he would suffer from doing something so wrong. He probably doesn't understand it though, i would be surprised if he did...

Answer 11

I say its normal, because he does not undertand the concept of death...or what death is.  He is very young and he needs to be taken serious.  Therapy can help him undertand why its not wright to say or do those things.  I really do suggest taking him for evaluation and a child Phycologist.

Best of luck.

Answer 12

You should take him to go talk to a child therapist or something.

Answer 13

No.  Maybe it's something that he saw on t.v. but you need to get him checked out by a child psychologist.  Do not take him to a counselor or someone who is not trained specifically in child psychology.

Answer 14

Um no.  I dont think so at all.  I would be worried about my own safety and that of others.  You should take him to see a counselor

Answer 15

Definetly not.  Wow you might want to get him in to see a doctor.  I have seen a few kids act in similar ways and they were later diagnosed with autism or terrets.  Good luck.

Answer 16

Has he been through any sexual abuse? He must be acting out for some reason please go get him help.

Answer 17

No, it's not. Your son can grow up to be a serial killer. I'm serious. I suggest getting a pshychatrist immediattly!

Answer 18

o0o0o0 no hunnnn thatsz  not normal y3w need 2 get him some help while hesz yung...or wen he getsz older thingsz will get outta hand!!! itsz best that y3w get him help NOW!!!

Answer 19

Since he's young, he probably doesn't really think much about what he's saying, nor pauses to think about how awful his life would be if he did kill someone. Definitely talk to him, and if that doesn't work try a counsellor or someone like that. Hopefully all will go well.

Answer 20

Go seek help for him, have him evaluated by a child psychologist.

Answer 21

definitely isn't normal... i would probably take him to see a therapist and possibly see if he has bipolar???

Answer 22

I would tell his docter and ask the docter if this is normal. If not she will tell you what to do, I hope this helped.

-Tara

Answer 23

oh yes it is they just say that to get noticed 99.9% of the time they do not mean it

Answer 24

yea its normal everyone even elderly people have homicidal

thoughts now and again it will pass or just talk to him about it