I recently had a baby, and have not slept thru the night in over 2 months. It’s gotten to the point that I honestly do not think I will EVER recover from the effects of sleep deprivation (trust me, it does happen!) I take care of the baby 24/7. My boyfriend who basically lives with me (though he's not on the lease, and does not pay bills) is on the computer from the MINUTE he walks in the door until he goes to bed (4 or 5 in the morning), then proceeds to SLEEP all day! He NEVER offers to cook for me, he leaves dirty dishes all over the place that I have to wash. I do his laundry, and when I asked him to give me a couple of bucks of week to help with that, he had a coronary!! He doesn't vacuum or mop the floor...NOTHING. He just causes more work for me.
Also, when he spends the night, I cannot get any sleep, because he’s on Youtube with the computer speakers cranked up really loud, then he has the tv on even louder. The noise level is off the charts! My infant daughter gets fussy because of the constant noise, so she and I have to hang out in the bedroom. When she and I go to bed, he STILL has the tv and computer blaring.
My daughter sleeps best if she’s put to bed with me at night, but when her father comes over, she has to sleep in her bassinet. She makes noises all night, and I jump up, thinking that she’s suffocating or something. She’s just making restless noises, because she isn’t sleeping well. So I don’t sleep well at all. When her father finally decides to go to bed at 4 or 5 in the morning, he wakes me up by snoring and shifting around in the bed. During the day, when the baby wants to nap, she can’t nap on the bed like she’s used to, because my boyfriend is in it! So she has to sleep in her bassinet, I have to nap on the couch, etc...our schedules are REALLY messed up when he stays over.
He’s at my house practically every day of the week, but he won’t help pay bills. Who does he think is paying for the internet he uses, or for the cable that he watches?? How about all the electricity is takes to run the tv and internet, not to mention the air conditioning? Like I said before, I have to BEG him for a couple of bucks to do HIS laundry, but he always has money to go out with his friends, and to buy books and things for himself!
I've been with him for almost 5 years, and I'm SO OVER him! I want him to start staying at his own house more (he lives with his mom), but every time I SUGGEST this, he gets upset and says, “Fine, then I won’t stay over anymore!†I’m too tired to fight with him. How do I handle this situation? I really want to just break up and be friends, but I’m afraid that I’ll hurt his feelings....
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