Sleep overs?

Question

My daughter has never stayed at anyones house besides ours. She's 3. Its because of me, I am too afraid of something happening and me not being there for her. I havn't even let her stay at her grandparents houses.

My best friend offered to keep her overnight, so I could have a night out with my husband. Im 36 weeks pregnant and I know that I wont have too many more chances to get out of the house or have time alone. I have been stir crazy being cooped up and I know it would be good for me, and probably my daughter too.

I trust her. She has a little girl that is my daughters age, so she will have fun, but I am really worried about letting her go.

Am I just being too overprotective? Shoud I let her go? Im just not sure what to do. What would you do?

Answer 1

yes your over protective c'mon her own grandparents????

what a slap in the face to them. they have more experience than u.

as for your friend i donno about that i would always trust my family more.

Answer 2

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I think this is the best time to let your daughter sleepover. She has a friend and will no doubt have a fun time, while you and your husband can have a lovely evening together before the new baby gets here. Not to mention when you do have the new baby you will be gone to the hospital and this way  your daughter will see that you can spend the night and then come back home. The worst thing that could happen is that your friend calls you to talk to her on the phone, but she will be so busy having fun while you worry. I would also let the grandparents have her for the night so she is used to it, otherwise when you do have the baby and she may spend the night with them she may resent the new baby for taking you away from her.

  SOOO ... let sleepovers be a fun thing, not an emergency type situation.

I know it is hard the first time.. but enjoy this precious gift from the grandparents and your good friend.

Answer 3

that should be fine, let her go, shell have fun and ull b glad u did it

Answer 4

LET HER GO!  if you dont have a cell, hang in your house all night, just you and the hubby resting assured that she will call you if anything is wrong.  if you do have a cell, get the heck out of that house, as long as you feel well enough to do so!  its not selfish, or wrong to spend some quality alone time with your husband, especially considering the undertaking youre about the begin with baby #2.  I think it would be so good for you and your husband.  That being said, your daughter will probably have such a blast with someone she knows and trusts, and another child her age.  This is a win win all around.  Its clear your a good mother, and protective but i think this once you should let go and enjoy!

Answer 5

My oldest two children stayed overnight together for the first time with my parents when they were 4 and 6.  My 2-1/2 year old did stay with them for an overnight also, but with her older siblings with her.  I would not let a child stay over at someone's house at the age of 3 unless they were someone I knew VERY well.  I.E. I grew up in my parents' home, so I know what to expect of them with children.  I don't think it's a good idea in general at that age, and I don't think you're being overprotective.

Answer 6

i would let her go. you need the time with hubby... and she IS your best friend so you obviously trust her.

just leave your cell # in case of emergencies. and maybe call to check on her once or twice.

i'm sure she'll be alright :]

Answer 7

Talk with the parent watching over your child about what could go wrong, and how she would solve it. Does your child have medical needs, comfort needs, or any real neccesities? Make the list clear of what the parent should do incase anything should come up, and go over it untill you feel comfortable that she can handle any situation.

You should go have fun, but having fun is likely only going to happen if you know your child is safe and is having fun. So untill your confident about leaving her with a [responsible] adult, you will always feel couped up.

Good luck! Dont be afraid to let go!

Answer 8

I'm the same way! Just know that a little fear and perhaps even sheer terror is normal when leaving your kid with someone else. Go out. Have fun, just don't go too far and feel free to call as often as you want. Please let us know what you decide to do!

Answer 9

I am the same way. My son is 4 and has never slept away from us. We don't have any family in the country and I know that even if someone offered to keep him for a night, we would end up having to go get him. Whenever we go to a hotel, he cries to go back to his own bed.

I'd say, if the idea of having her spend the night away doesn't make either of you happy, don't do it. Neither of you will sleep if you're not happy or if you are worried.

How about this. Plan on having her spend the night at your friend's house.  Go out with your husband, but see if you and your husband can sleep at your friend's house too after you get back from your night out. . That may not work out, but it's a thought. We have done this and it worked like a charm. It's a kind of introduction to sleep overs, but they know that mom and dad will be there later too.

Answer 10

Maybe you could just ask your friend if she will watch your kid while you go out with your husband a nd then you can pick her up afterwards.

Answer 11

When i was pregnant again after my twins and my sister offered to watch my kids i was so nervous but now it really helped them because they are so independent now and not afraid to be with out me or my husband.  You should definitely go out because you need your time too.  Definitely let her go though it will be a good thing.  Now my kids love sleeping out!