Smile more, better charisma?

Question

Not necessarily charisma, but do you find that smiling more attracts people to you?

And also, is it possible to have some sort of opposite-of-charismaness that makes people not want to be around you? Would smiling more help that?

Answer 1

If you give a genuine smile, it indicates that you're sure of yourself and confident, and gives the impression that everything in your life is going well. This will automatically make your personality shine brighter, and will actually make you appear to be more *physically* attractive too! In contrast, no one likes a timid wuss, and everyone avoids drama, so if you look depressed people will avoid you.

Answer 2

Depends on the person.

A lot of people may think that smiling more would be a sign of a threat.

Answer 3

There is definitely anti-charisma!  I know that if I am feeling a bit anti-social I can go through my whole day without a single stranger speaking to me but when I am in a friendly mood everyone seems to want to strike up a conversation or at least smile at me and say hello.

It is all about the non-verbal communication that goes on.  Standing with your shoulders back and relaxed, making eye-contact, keeping your chin slightly lifted and having a small smile (like you just thought about something that makes you happy) all communicate to others that you are open to friendly contact.   Doing the opposite: hunched shoulders, looking down and away from people and looking serious or distracted all signal that you would rather be left alone.

Once people are in your company, being a good listener, asking question about others, giving hinest compliments and saying positive things (no complaining) and of course smiling, all make a person more enjoyable to be around.

For good advice on how to be more chrismatic read this book (it is very old but people are the same as they were back then and you won't find a better book on how to devolope really good social skills)

"How to Win Friends and Influence People"  is one of the first bestselling self-help books ever published. Written by Dale Carnegie and first published in 1936, it has sold 15 million copies globally. It was a New York Times best seller for 10 years

You can still easliy fond copies for sale everywhere.