So, is she a boy-toy or what??

Question

Ok I'm not jealous or anything bout this girl (so please keep this in mind)!!!

I know a girl from Eastern Europe and she is a contract worker in my country. There are some 300 contract workers from the same country as her so basically a specific group of them are friends. My fiance is one of these "friends" and is also from her country.

Whenever there is a party or some get together, this girl is always invited. My fiance said she is a nice girl and everyone likes her. But when she comes around I get an instant attitude. She wears the shortest/tightest dresses and skirts she could find and high heel shoes.To be 100% honest, if she was to stand on any street corner in any country at night, she would most definantly be pick up as a prostitute.

However, no one shares my views on her. She flirts (majorly) with all the guys around her. She will even go lay down in bed next to married guys, cross her legs over their lap, sit on their lap, etc... But my fiance says she is just playing and it's all in good fun. Ironically enough, none of the girls say anything to her and still stay as very close friends.

It maybe just "second nature" in their country but in my country girls who act this way get bad names (like prostitute).

I dont wanna make waves within the community of these people so that's why I only confided in my fiance but he defends her like everybody else does.

She more or less snobs me. I mean she says hello (kisses on each cheek) and goodbye (kisses on each cheek). And that's it. The other girls talk to me, make conversation in English (I cant speak their lang but they can speak mine), and are really cool and talkative. While this girl will talk with the other girls but eventually she finds herself over with the guys.

Am I just reading too much into this whole thing or is she really just being a b**ch?? Please I really wanna know how to deal with this girl.

Thanx :-)

Answer 1

she is easy

Answer 2

jealous..dump yo boyfreind if he is enjoying this and letting her get all over him or mess around with some other boy in front of him..see how he likes it

Answer 3

no You must fight with these peoples

Answer 4

Oh yeah, you're not jealous <sarcasm>

Answer 5

She sounds like a dog!! to me and that is exactly what she is a little tramp is what she is.

Answer 6

I can't say that she's sleeping with these guys, or even actually trying to, but she does seem to be doing more than her fair share of attention seeking.  It could be that since these other people know her better, they have a better understanding of what it is that makes her feel the need to act this way, and have chosen to try to be understanding or ignore it.  Ignoring is a very common way of dealing with certain issues in many cultures.  

She may be one of those girls who was really ugly or fat when she was younger, or maybe she was sheltered by her parents and not allowed to be around men and be social, so now she's trying out her wings, just not in the most appropriate way.  She may have been molested as a child and is acting out on her abuse in this way because that was how she has learned men like for her to be (I used to work with abused children, had to throw that observation in).  

Either way, if the entire group is cool with it, the only thing you can really do is make sure your fiance knows that you don't want him to allow her to be like that with him.  She may not be especially chatty with you because she can tell you don't approve of her behavior and she takes it as rejection.  Some of the others there may have told her how you felt about her.  Would you want to hang with someone you knew thought you were a s**t?  No matter how you try to hide stuff like that, people can always tell when you don't like them.

Answer 7

She is obviously searching for attention from the guys.  You need to put on a happy face and be nice to her, but let your boyfriend know that you've got her pegged for the s***k she is and he needs to stay away from her.