So, my wife tells me she doesn't love me anymore?

Question

After a long marriage and two kids. How do I make her sorry?

I've already got legalities on my side, most of the money and property shall be mine, and I'm pretty sure I'll be able to keep the kids away from her as I move and leave her far behind to assure she has as little access to our 12 and 9 year old daughters as possible.

Answer 1

I know you are hurt, but tring to keep the children from there mother is not a good thing and it will back fire on you, becasue it will make you look bad in the eyes of the children. In most divorce cases the mother most always gets the children unless you have solid proof she is unfit mother and then if you can't the father gets joint custodyif you live in the same school district or visitaion rights. Try to work things out the most peacful way you can, not just for you, but for your children as well becasue what you go through in this situation they will go through it also. Good Luck

Answer 2

The best revenge is LIVING WELL.

No need to make her life h**l.  You just walk away looking like a bitter man.  Do you really want that?

Also, giving her little to no access to see the kids isn't good either.  It is better to set up supervised visits if she truly has this mental problems you mentioned.  IF you keep the kids away from her....the kids could grow up to resent you for that.  

No need to speak a foul word against their mom either.  

Be the better person and show your daughters how a MAN is supposed to be.  

Don't drown in a pool of bitterness, resentment and hate.  

Take care of yourself and your kids...

Answer 3

one of the saddest things i've ever read here.  why must go out of your way to punish her?  seriously, this is really sadistic  

Answer 4

I'm actually in the same boat... I don't love my hubby anymore in a relationship sense. I love him for the man he is and the two beautiful girls we have together. We just don't have anything in common anymore and we don't ever agree on what to do with our kids and how we want to raise them. We are currently separated to see how we feel apart from each other, and then when we see each other how we feel. We are also seeking marriage counseling to see if it will help us to get with the program.

Me...I have tried everything to tell him how I feel when he says or does certain things and it is as if my feelings don't matter and he keeps on doing it. I feel as if the only way I could be heard was to ask him to leave. It opened his eyes to see that we are not okay. I am doing everything I can to save the marriage for my kids sake. I hope this helps a little and good luck.

Answer 5

you should think of your children first and don't use them like that. i was always told that you don't use your children against your spouse. even when i'm mad at my husband (and he's done his share), i've always told my kids to respect their dad.

as for your wife, you're not telling the whole story.  

Answer 6

  Did I miss something there, why is it that you think if she don't love you she can't love her daughters, Your girls don't want to see their mother, really you either left out something or maybe you are that heartless and thats what she don't love. At least try to act compassionate for your daughters who are no doubt heart broken to lose their mother because you want to be petty.

Answer 7

You sound very unpleasant and extremely venomous.  Is this the way you always are?  If so, no wonder your wife doesn't love you anymore.  Kudos to her for sticking it out so long - and now finally leaving.

If you really want to make her sorry, stay.  That would make all of us sorry.

Get a life.

Answer 8

Yeah, make her feel like sh*t. Thats what I would do.

Answer 9

What an A**hole to use your children as pawns just because your wife doesn't want to be with you anymore. This is between you and your wife, not your kids.

Answer 10

You better ask yourself if you still love her you have to find what is wrong with you if you want the marriage to last. If you did everything and still she insist that she dont love you anymore let her go.  What is the use of staying together if there is no more love and respect to each other.  

Answer 11

Why are you being so vindictive? You want to keep your children from their mother? You want her to live in poverty? This is what is so wrong with people. When things don't work out, they turn bitter and want immediate revenge. Whatever has happened between you two, think of your children first. Put your anger aside. What is more important? Your revenge or the stability of your children. Sometimes we can become so blinded by life's hardships. You really need to reevaluate the situation, and start thinking much differently. Your kids deserve the best, if no one else.

Answer 12

u can't make someone sorry who isn't. true it might make u feel better for her to be sorry,but some people will never be sorry for the heartache they cause others.i would file for divorce and seek no revenge, just get away from her and be happy u won't have to share assetts.

Answer 13

First of all it's not up to you on who gets the kids and who don't. It's up to the judge! If this is the way you've acted while you've been married to her it's no wonder she had issues or even wanted to divorce you!! Can't blame her. And trust me when I say this....if the judge says you pay her then you have to pay her. If she goes for alimony she can get it cause you have provided her with a certain type life style and the court will most likely give her alimony. Besides do you really think since it's up to the court that they will make the county and state pay her way when they can make YOU?! Not likely! Your going to get stuck no matter what you think and you can't just up and move if that's want your thinking as well. She can force you to stay in the state and county so she can have visitation rights with the girls and there's nothing you can do about it. She has rights too no matter what you think. So you need to deal  with the issues here and quit thinking about the many different ways you can get even with her and put your feelings aside for the girls. In time your girls will be able to figure things out for themselves and if they decide they don't want to see her anymore or don't want to live with her or whatever the case may be they will in time figure out who is right and who is wrong on their own. In the mean time you need to help them get through this bad time and put them first. Not you and your revenge and hate for your wife.

Answer 14

that's the worst , worst WORST thing you can do to your kids is to make them feel horrible about the way you will get back at your wife.  you are not thinking of their best interest and you will be using them to get back at your wife.  are you really that immature?  take the high road and be civil with your wife, be fair with your wife, and don't EVER EVER EVER talk bad about her to your kids - your wife needs to do the same.  think of your kids, not of youreself.    

Answer 15

Sic 'em champ. Wishy washy women... I can't stand a flake!  

Answer 16

It sounds like you're threatening her to stay married to you.  Sorry, it will not work out as you think in divorce settlement. As for custody, the judges will decide if you think you can try to take the full custody cuz you sounds so selfish and threatening. That's very forceful.

First of all, I'm sure the judge will divide the property and monetary between you even if you don't agree with the judge. *shrugs* Or she may get the house and the joint or full custody cuz of your threats which won't be taken lightly.  

Answer 17

My mother left my father when I was 7 and then he tried to keep me away from her in an effort to punish her. He also tried to make me hate her. He actually punished me in the process and now I can't stand him. I'm now closer to my mom. You had better rethink what you are doing, which is BS. Your kids will grow up, figure out what you did, and then resent you.