So, what does he mean by this statement?

Question

This guy i've been dating all summer is going back to college an hour away soon. We were texting and i told him i wanted to just know straight up what he thinks, cause before he said he had to think about things, now he said is ""i don't know, thats all i can give you..if thats not enough then its on ur shoulders" What the heck does that statement mean? its on my shoulders? I think i'm overthinking things!!! I wonder if hes still thinking about what he wants?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants. I mean he is going to college, and obviously there will be tons of girls there. He just sounds unsure. But about the "if that's not enough then it's on your shoulders," it sounds like if the "I don't know" is not good enough for YOU and what you wanted to hear, then that is your problem. Basically, he's saying it's your problem if you are not satisfied with just an "I don't know;" which most girls really aren't because they want to know EXACTLY how a guy is feeling.

But that's just how I interpreted it.

Answer 2

he wants you to call off things so he doesnt have to be the bad guy and hurt your feelings and do it

Answer 3

Yeah, his reply is really...weird.

If he doesn't know, then who the h**l does?

I think you kinda just need to focus on the first part of the sentence. If he's not fully committed then there's not much you can do.

Take some time off from each other and see where it goes. Talk to him about it first, of course, but yeah, if neither of you feel like you're missing out on something by not having the other in their lives, then you can each go your seperate ways.

But I think your feelings will still be there and you'll have to deal with a 'long distance' (it's more 'short distance') relationship until one of you gets fed up.

But really, 1 hour away isn't long at all...

Answer 4

Its on ure shoulders means that he wants you to end it. Why? Cuz he doesn't really want to commit to you, so he wants you to take control of the situation so he doesn't look like the bad guy. Even though he lives an hour away, it doesn't mean he wants a girlfriend. He wants to be free.

Answer 5

it means he only saw this as summer fun. and he is being an *** about it. on ur shoulders?... idk what to make of that but i would assume its, "we can still hook up but its not gonna be anything exclusive."

eh, his loss rite.