So I dont want kids but every woman I've met over 25 years of age does?

Question

And I fnd myself having a very hard time finding anyone, even women I dont like, who does not want kids.

I dont want kids. I dont want to be responsible for a child. I dont want to pay to finance a child. I know I would make a terrible parent, I freely admit that. But most of all, Lupus (a genetically transmitten immuno-disorder) runs in my family and I will not allow any child of mine to run the risk of suffering it. And adoption isnt for me.

I just want a good woman who I can live a quiet life with.

Do most men simply lie about wanting kids? Or do most people actually want to have them?

Answer 1

well its simple really.......you are too into yourself......and frankly Im not confident a relationship with anyone would last you very long....having children is the best part of life...you are really missing out.

Answer 2

Umm I find it odd that children come up in conversations when you are casually dating someone.

Isn't the point of casually dating to keep it fun and light? And then eventually talk about the heavy stuff. By that time you should be so smitten with the women and her with you that you don't care about whether or not they want kids. You just want to spend your life with them.

Answer 3

Hi there.  I know a few women over 25 who don't want children.  I think a lot of men don't want children but some don't do anything about preventing it.  That's why there are so many single mothers out there.  There are also men who get married not wanting children, but their wives assure them they are taking precautions and really don't.  I know a guy this happened to and he carries a lot of resentment towards her because of it.  A lot of men do want kids however.

I wasn't exactly thrilled to learn I was pregnant with my daughter, but since there were no other "options", I had her and would give my life for her in a split second from the second I laid eyes on her.    

Don't worry, you will find a great woman who does not want kids either.  Just be patient.  Your honesty is wonderful!!

Good luck to ya!

Answer 4

You can find a woman who doesn't want kids.  I think it may be easier to find a woman in her mid to late 30's, who does not want kids, though.  It does seem like more women in their 20's want babies. I know plenty of women who only want a career, commited relationship or marriage. I can understand your reasons for not wanting kids, ecspeically the lupus part, because I found out my mom has it and it's horrible.

I don't miss my "orderly" single life without my two kids, because honestly, my single, childless years were more chaotic and aimless than my current life.  I had no idea what my idea what my real purpose was, and I was always lonely despite having a serious boyfriend.  I was always unhappy.  I was a mess.  Most of that has cleared up since I've started a family.  I won't lie, I do miss blowing paychecks on whatever I wanted, and waking up at 1 pm on Saturdays, but those are small sacrifices compared to what I have now.

Answer 5

I'm a 22 year old female and I never want children.  Do you live in Chicago?

Answer 6

Disorder and chaos is fun ... I cant imagine my life without it ....

My wife has passed away ... and I dont forsee me getting married again ... mainly for the reason you state ... most women want to have families and I am done ... I have three beautiful young women that I absolutely adore and have been so blessed to be their dad ....

And it sucks that Im done ... because I have met some terrific women .... but ... I need to focus on my girls .... (13, 13, and 25 years ) .... and it wouldnt be fair to any woman  to lead them on ... Im to d**n old!

I understand your quandry ... but believe it or not .. there are women out their that dont want kids ... you just havent ran into them! The ones I have met are too young ...

Good luck and I wish you the best!

Answer 7

The "something" you're just not getting is that being a parent IS the most incredible thing there is. You can not and will not understand that until you have a child of your own.

Ask your Mother.

Ask your Father.

Ask your friends or co-workers who have children.

Ask your siblings or other people you see anywhere, anyplace.

You will never and can never know the joy of being a parent until you have seen YOUR child smile at you, or you hold your son or daughter when they're sick or hurt. Or the completely incomprehensible feeling of accomplishment and astonishment when your son or daughter takes their first steps or reads a book to you, instead of you reading it to them.

Ask ANY parent if they would ever change it to go back to "an orderly, quiet life". I can not imagine anyone who ever would.

I understand your not wanting to pass on genes that could have damaging effects on your children, but your missing the BIG picture. Being a Parent is what life is all about.

Answer 8

There is a lot of pressure on this society to have children, but if you live elsewhere in the world, having children is an options and not a necessity.  You may want to make it clear when you are dating that you are not interested in having children.

Answer 9

Have you maybe tried dating sites you can look up women that dont want children. I think its all about wanting that materal instint and wanting to feel that life. I've always loved kids people have always said and to this day kids just kind of gravate to me probaly because i'm a big kid myself. I want a big family i cant give you a real reason why its just always something that appealed to me i think it's the greatest. I do hope you find the girl of your dreams though good luck.

Answer 10

I have not noticted this at all, if anything less women want kids now more than ever. It could be that I am from just outside NYC, and people here are a bit diffrent here than other places in the nation. I think you need to date from maybe a diffrent group of people, or it could be that if you are looking for a longterm relationship, i.e. marriage, most women will want a family out of that. Hope I helped.