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So a husband cheated on his wife with a young co-worker?

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He said that his wife wasn't making an effort to connect with him. There was no spark in his marriage anymore and he didn't feel like she was fulfilling his emotional needs. He said he tried to get her to show passion for him but she didn't respond to his advances and blew it off when he wanted to talk about it. He had s*x with this 19 year old girl 5 times. On scale of 1-10 how much do you think he is to blame for cheating on his wife? (10-completely to blam, 1-not to blame)

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  1. 10 because he is the only one in control of his actions.................

    and 1 because his wife caused the feelings that led to those actions.


  2. Husband 10, wife 7.  He's 100% guilty but she's not innocent.  He cheated with someone else, she cheated him out of a wife.  No excuse for not divorcing her first though.

  3. a 10 he is completely to blame, everyone is responsible for their actions. It is sad that instead of separating or divorcing if the marriage truly is not working that he would cheat and use that excuse for cheating furthermore, he took advantage of the youth of his co-worker no matter how you slice it. With actions come consequences.

  4. he is a 10 completely at blame for his cheating. If he doesn't like his wife and felt she wasn't fulfilling him then it was up to him to tell his wife and try and fix his marriage and if he didn't was to do that and just wanted to go out and cheat then he should have ended his marriage and gone on and lived his life and been honest with his wife.  All guys blamee it on the wife when they cheat oh she is mean, she is boring there is no spark, any thing to take the blam off  of him for what he did

  5. The husband is 100% responsible for cheating on his wife

    His wife is 100% responsible for blowing him off.

    The 19 year old is 100% responsible for having an affair with a married man.

    Each person could have done something to prevent this from happening. None of them did.

    If you are not willing to take 100% ownership in every single thing you do, good or bad, you are not being responsible.

    You are not responsible for what others do. You ARE, however completely responsible for how you respond to them, and for your own actions. No one can make you do anything.

  6. 10.

    Cheating is no excuse

    and you're an idiot for blaming her.

  7. Anyone who cheats, regardless of the circumstances, is a 10.  This sounds harsh and unforgiving, but there is no justification for cheating in a relationship.  If the relationship so not going well, there is always an opportunity for the person to leave, even if it hurts others.  Instead, staying the relationship just further hurts the cheater, and, though it may not seem like it, the person being cheated on.  In addition, this situation is bound to hurt the girl who he's been sleeping with (who is only 19, as you pointed out.  That's not even old enough to drink).  If the relationship is unsatisfactory, no one is making him stay.  To re-cap, he is 100% to blame.  There are always choices, and he made the wrong one.

  8. 6.

  9. 10. We're all responsible for our own actions.

  10. 10. You leave if your unhappy. If your interested in making it work then don't destroy any chances of that happening by being unfaithful.

  11. Was it his p***s? Did he put it in another girl? Was he drugged against his will or unconscious? 10, you fool!!

    If he cheated, it is 100% his fault. If his wife is cold, go to a marriage counselor. If she won't go, divorce her. If she won't divorce him, the spark is probably still there.

    My boyfriend turns into a goddamn icicle and pretty much ignores me for a whole month every June, and I have 3 years documentation on this. Does that give me an excuse to go out and sleep with every hot guy that walks by? No!

    Cheating is NEVER acceptable, ever, and if it weren't for her I'd say I hope he catches a disease.

  12. he cheated, not her. he is to blame completely. and  have you ever thought he was just making excused for his actions? if he didn't love her, he should've

    told her and left without being a cheating slimeball.

  13. 10- there is no excuse for unfaithfulness. Having s*x with someone else is not going to fix the problem he is having with his wife. It is wrong to even think for one second that you have the right to cheat for any reason. You took vows, if you don't want to hold true to them now then get a divorce. But don't endanger your wife with some STD you might contract. Take responsibility for your actions. No one made you cheat but your self. Just because your wife is a jerk dissent give you a free s***w card. Either get counseling or get out.

  14. 5. The husband AND wife are responsible. 0 if the wife is 46.

  15. If there's no more spark in his marriage and if his wife is acting like that, why is he even still with her? I would have popped smoke as soon as I realized this marriage wasn't worth it.

  16. 10. He should have tried to get them into counselling or left her. Cheating is for dishonest low life scum and I have 0 respect for such people. And a 19 year old co-worker! Jesus.

  17. He should either get to counseling, talk to his wife a little more openly instead of expecting her to jump to his wishes. Why isn't he interested in his wife's well-being? There could be an underlying issue that makes her feel like she cannot respond.

    And now that he's cheated, she has all the more reason NOT to.

    Give the guy a 10.

  18. 10.  It is utterly dishonorable to engage with or start up with other mates when in a convenant with someone else. To be honorable, one addresses the existing relationship first, fixes it or ends it, before engaging with other mates.  In open marriages, sexual snacking may be ethical within a convenant.  But, if it is considered "cheating", it is a dishonorable act.  

    Think of it like this.  Mates are human beings with feelings.  We as beings of conscience and ethics cannot honorably abandon our committment to another person, such as in nursing, in such a way as to endanger them or cause them to suffer unduly.  For example, in nursing, I could not abandon a patient during my shift assigned to him just because I no longer "liked" him.  I might not want to take him as a patient the next day.  But, while he was in my care, within my honorable covenant of trust and committment, it would be my responsibility to care gently and kindly for him.  

    You just can't look at yourself in the mirror later on in life with all of that kind of junk piled up, too many times of dishonorably not living up to honorable obligations.  I heard that a LOT in hospice nursing.  Men think when they sum up their lives someday that what will matter is the size of money belt or "things" they own.  But, how all men judge themselves someday is by the condition, wholesome or otherwise, of their perception of themselves as having been men of honor, or not.

    It eats at men as they go through life, those seemingly understandable, make - a - million - excuses - for - dishonorable  behaviors throughout their lives in which no matter how they intellectualize or rationalize their responsibility away, they know those moments were always those moment when they lost their way.

  19. 30.  10 for cheating on his wife.  10 for b*tchin' to you about it. ( And you believed him!)   And 10 for whatever he told the 19-yr-old in order to seduce her.

    I wonder what his wife's side of the story would be??   Here's something you, and those who criticized the wife, did not consider:  maybe, just maybe, he's a liar.  He's already an adulterer.  Why would he be honorable about anything else?

  20. This "hypothetical" question essentially just happened to a very good friend of mine, give or take a few minor details.  (they were living together but unmarried, she was on stress leave and in therapy at the time.  Oh, and the co-worker in question is 18, not 19.)

    So pardon me if I feel like this is much more HIS fault than hers.  He can file for divorce or seek counseling on his own before cheating on his wife.  He made the CHOICE to cheat on his wife, multiple times.  He had EVERY chance to stop but didn't.

    There is NEVER an excuse for cheating.

  21. 10, he's completely to blame for cheating on his wife because it's an action he chose for himself.

    That is not to say that it was completely unjustified, but he can't say, "Oh, my wife put a gun to my head and forced me to have s*x with another woman."

    The couple would have been better off seeing a marriage counselor.

  22. 10.  She is in no way responsible for what he freely chose to do.  Repeatedly.

  23. 10. He is a grown up man and he is responsible for his actions. Period.

  24. 10...you are responsible for your own actions.

  25. Responsibility works both ways. He is responsible for his actions as is the 19 year old who obviously couldn't care less about his wife. If you are trying to blame his wife for his actions that's as dumb as women saying that a man made her do it when she has done something wrong.

    If there was no passion in the marriage then why are they still together? Separate or get a divorce then he can be with anyone he chooses.

    BTW, your last sentence says it all. HE CHEATED on his wife. He is to blame. Pinning it on the wife is easy but it is just an excuse.

  26. 10, no one is responsible for his actions except for him.  He made the choice to cheat, he is responsible for his own behavior.
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