So confused. what should i do?

Question

well, im seriously the most confused person right now.

i have a boyfriend. but he lives in a different place then me.

i love him, but i cant live without him like in a different place,

its so hard. & im stupid im cheating on him with a guy that is

in the same place as me, i like him but its not love.

so what do you think i should do?

ugh im so down. just help please?

Answer 1

You're not holding very reasonable expectations for yourself-

How could you be expected to just shut-down and shut-off when someone you love is all-the-sudden just too far away?

I think your emotions have been too slow to catch up to the realization that your bf is really not conveniently close anymore-

Try to slow down a little bit each day so you can effectively sort through your scattered feelings...that'll let them catch up-  

Keep emotionally connected to other people or [guy/s] but I think it's safe to say that your connecting spontaneously with someone besides your bf is your way of putting some closure on the whole thing and easing the pain of easing out...

I'm going to say that's what needs to be done at this point-  

He's moved.

Answer 2

I think you know the answer to this, its just the answers scares us. You have a few options. You could break up with the person you love, for someone you don't love but is a little more convenient. Or, you could stop cheating on your boyfriend and face up to him and be honest, if you both love each other, it should turn out ok. Anyway you do the second option, you'll feel better morally. Hope this helped =]

Answer 3

You obviously don't deserve the boy who is in a different place than you. So you're with another guy in your location and his waiting for you elsewhere? Stick with the guy you are with now, because the one in the different place deserves better. Much better.

Answer 4

its really simple,its obvious you dont love him because if you did you wouldnt be cheatng on him....and it sounds like your beating yourself up over it...if you cant be faithfull to him just let him know that u cxan do a long distant relationship and be done with it...the right thing to do is normaly the hardest thing to do which is way people always take the easy way out.....do the right thing

Answer 5

i'm kinda in da same situation so i no wat ur talkin about with me and my friend we ageed that we would go out wiv other ppl until she comes bac but we still tlk and r really gd friends

Answer 6

long distance relationships are hard.

i think you cant handel one due to the fact you cheated already; so i sugest if you really love him then you will end it so he can move on and so you dont hurt him when he finds out which he WILL find out.

xoxo

good luck

you deserve the relationship your looking for and more.

Answer 7

I totally empathize with you. I was in a ldr [long distance relationship] and was totally crazy about th guy, although i only saw him like once a month if that. And its hard!! Its really difficult and you have needs. No-ones perfect allll the time whether in relation to relationships or not.

Cheer up :] Maybe you can take ur mind of things by writing him a long letter about how u feel about the distance, it doesn't have to be morbid or depressing, write him a little letter of love :] and pop it in at the middle or end maybe. Say its really hard for you and perhaps u can both do something to make it a little more bearable?

I totally understand if u dont love the other guy, how does he feel about u? Attention makes us feel positive about ourselves when we're down, so it may just be a reinforcement thing- not your fault.

But you also got to think about how ur bf would feel if he had suspicions or found out. Maybe its addictive, but you have to draw the line by yourself somewhere.

Hope this helps, hope things get easier for you.

xx