So depressed. Please help.?

Question

I have a dilemma. I have no friends. It's always kind of been this way. People just don't like me. I'm not weird or anything and I don't talk about people, but for some reason ever since I was little people just didn't like me and didn't talk to me. I've been told that since I'm "smart" people are intimidated by me and think that I'm s****. or that I'm just too good for everyone. I'm also quiet, but sometimes when I try to be sociable, the people just ignore me like I'm not even there. I'm not ugly. I get lots of guy attention, but I seem to have no friends. The ones I thought I had don't treat me like a friend. They plan stuff and outings and invite everyone except for me and then tell me that I'm just not apart of the "group" because they all have classes together but I don't. I would never do that to them, but now that I'm graduating I was really counting on having a great senior year but this year I have absolutely no one in my any of my classes that I can talk to. I'm a loner at my school and it bothers me. What if it's me? Maybe no one wants to be my friend because of something I'm doing. What should I do?

Answer 1

I so wanna talk to you in depth about this, but I'll try to keep it short, reading this totally reminded me of myself and when I was in high school...all I can say is, things will get better, I've been out of high school for 6yrs now, all my classmates absolutely love me now, always calling wanting to hang out, never knew how cool I really was...they said I was a stuck up snob, when really I wasn't, I just was a super shy christian girl that kept to myself...once everyone is over the childishness they will absolutely love you, so keep being yourself!

Answer 2

OH MY GOD. you have the same exact problem i do. i feel like my only friend is my boyfriend. even my best friend doesnt really invite me out with her other firends. I do try to talk to people but for some reason they just kind of ignore me. I'm not unattractive either...I only have 2 friends. and i feel lonely when i get new classes with new people...

Answer 3

High school girls are so incredibly rude.

You seem quite smart and interesting.

Some people do not like that ( i personally think intelligent people are awesome!)

You should get a bit away from the "group"

Maybe see if there is another loner.

Or make friends with one of those guys you are getting attention from.

Make friends outside of school, get a job.  

Answer 4

Hey

I went through the same thing well You Should not be quiet because

you can not make friends that way you have to talk to them and learn about them and trust them to tell thing and stuff to and you should express yourself more to people and you would make alot of friend.

>>3

GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

Hang out with the guys.

Answer 6

ur just way 2 kool 4 them :]]

make friends with some of them guys. less drama anyway

Answer 7

Try talking to new people, seems like the people you talk to arent interested in being your friend, so stop talking to them it seems like it only makes you sad.

Try planning an event or outing yourself and invite people so you can show them how fun and great you really are!

Answer 8

most people are jerks just say who cares when someone says something mean to you or something like that

Answer 9

ok well college will be like a fresh start a lot of ppl are smart there so you are in ur league and you have to start to talk to more ppl get to know ppl have fun go to parties and guys are awesome friends you just need to learn to speak their language lol and learn to take a joke cus thats a good quality ppl like

Answer 10

if you only lived where i was, i'd be your friend!

Answer 11

Well, I enjoy making friends and you sound like a nice girl. You seem to be very sweet. I wish that I knew you. I believe we'd be pretty good friends. Well, thats if you enjoyed listening to music as much as I do.

People are dumb, for not being your firend. If they get mean at you, then pay them no attention. You say what you have to say to these people and leave it at that.

Answer 12

B ur self

Answer 13

I can promise you there is nothing wrong with you. Mean girls exclude people when you aren't exactly like them. but if we were all exactly alike, then what would the world be like?

Try hanging with people who are less "popular" or just someone who is really nice. Maybe try talking to a new student. They would probably be really glad that a person is being nice to them. (being new sucks)

also, a similar thing was happening to me. a group of "friends" would be nice one day and awful the next. So i sent the leader, so to speak, an email and i was like. "look if you want to be my friend tell me and you can lean on me and always trust me. if you don't want to be friends tell me, so i can stop wasting my time"

it turns out she didn't even realize they were hurting me, and now we are very good friends.

good luck!!

Answer 14

Well dont change yourself soo you can be noticed

Be yourself, and dont worry i had that too

And i fixed it by being nice to people and saying hey whats up

And just was outspoken and that helped me get some friends

And maybe your just not hanging around the right people

Dont worry, itll be okay

And if you need a friend to talk to

My email is

[e-mail]

Hope it gets better

Marine

;]

Answer 15

there just jealous because your smarter and get alot of guy attention, i don't get so much attention either!  even from my family! i only get attention from a few people! alot of people are jealous when someones better then them or more pretty or more smarter or get more guy attention, so that just means your better then them! and why would you even want to be peoples friend when their mean? well hope it turns out good! good luck!

Answer 16

Wanna be friends. I'm kinda interesting and i always have something to talk about. So what do ya say. Best answer if you need any more info. Talk to ya later buddy.

Answer 17

awwwwwwww. i hate it when people r mean, try to dress differently. don't go drastic and show skin, just act like u belong and that ur having a good time being a loner that will get u friends, and ull have a good time

Answer 18

Its not you. ppl have changed since we were little, girls are getting more and more s****. and there is only a few of us nice people left... i feel like that to... as if everyone of these s****. girls are robots! But consider yourself lucky to not get pulled into that c**p. These snobs just need a target and they think they are better than evey1 else. Dont worry it will catch up them... in the mean time, focus on yur boyfriend and studies... good luck and if u need a friend im here.

im 14 :) and i get picked on alot to, even though there is absoulutely nothing wrong with me.

Answer 19

high school sucks. thats just life. maybe it is you, or maybe its just the people at your school are jerks and b*tches...really don't worry about it. do you have any friends at all?? like one or two?? just don't think or worry about what people think of you. it doesn't matter. things will get better...

p.s. guys don't change much in college.

and good luck with your life : /

Answer 20

Don't try to fit in wit the GROUP. be you and never be ashamed of who you are or where you come from. Be you and that's the only thing that really counts in a person is how the think of themselves and you will get friends by people see you have alot of confidence in yourself. Don't worry bout the people who don't invite you to things. I think of it as if you don't get invited to things just think to yourself they just don't me there cuz they no I'm better than them!! :) It will turn out OK. Be happy!!!!

Answer 21

aww hunni if you were near me i would be your friend i understand what your going through with your old mates mine did that too and we always had Bi**h fights and now i just cant be bothered with them go out and be yourself maybe go somewhere for a drink and ask some oe if you can sit next to them and maybe have a chat if there not busy I'm really sure you will find someone better that the other lasses you don't even sound s****.

xx

Answer 22

just talk to people and dont try to impress anyone.

Answer 23

If I were you I would quit trying to fit in. Go out and be yourself. If those s****. girls want to treat you like they are than they don't deserve you. YOU are not the one missing out on them, THEY  are the one missing out on you. So go find somebody who cares and not somebody who will desert you later.

Answer 24

Why would you want to be friends with those girls? They are *** holes!!! I am also a senior. Let me tell you, I have had points in my life when I haven't had any friends, Just recently!! It is so lonesome. It probably makes you feel like you are not as good as those girls; like they are better than you or soemthing. Well, they are imature and socially inept and selfish. All you truely need is a few or even just one good pal. Try joining after school clubs. That is how I made friends. Also, hang out with people that like you for YOU. Not those preppy little nobodys, that only think of themselves. There are people that you will like and they will like you, you just have to let your gaurd down.

I know how you feel, and it sucks more than anyone knows. If I went to your shcool I would be friends with you!!

Answer 25

I know a couple of good bachelors that you just saw.

You could take one and I could take the other three.

Answer 26

okay. everybody has problems deal with it.

Answer 27

maybe you're trying to be friends with the wrong kind of people. or maybe its not that youre smart, thats a stupid reason for people not to be friends with you. maybe you come across as s****. or stuckup, or maybe you have an attitude problem. do you tell it like it is too much? maybe you have a reputation for being trashy, and people think youre a s***k.

maybe since you get so much guy attention, you should get a boyfriend. then you can be like "my bf is not only my bf, he's my bff."

it that doesn't work, why don't you try inviting people out? get over your shyness.  

Answer 28

man that's tuff just don't start being someone your not keep being yourself. girls in high school can be rude. start making guy friends forget the girl friend guys friends are the best. since you get the attention from the guys go with that  

Answer 29

I am a loner at my school too. I think that the girls are jealous of you, if you go to college and get a dorm with a room mate im sure that they'll be your friend.

Answer 30

do what i do ... have mostly guy freinds! there funner funnier and more intresting ... unlike gurls they wont judge you

Answer 31

When you are smarter than alot of people-there may be some people that ask for help and then others will just form their own opinion about you and assume you are stuck up,etc. I was very smart in school and serious about alot of things. I did not do what everyone else did at all-I was always a leader. I never got drunk, smoked, hung out late or at clubs,etc. It is okay to be who you are and do not worry about people that do not and will not accept you for who you are. There is someone out there that will accept you. Believe me, I got along with most people, was cool with a lot but there were very few that I considered to be true friends. Do not try to change who you are to fit in somewhere you don't because you will not feel comfortable and it will not work. If anything, just learn how to loosen up a bit and have fun and once people see that you can have fun, they will be your friends. So maybe you should try to plan an outing and invite a few people that you would like to come and just make sure you guys have fun.