So do you spice up your relationship when you think its going right down the drain?

Question

So I've only been with this guy for 2 1/2 years and we have a baby together (unexpected) but i couldn't imagine my life without my son, but it seems all me and my fiance do is fight and we barley ever see each other! We really fight about everything, he ends up taking it to the extreme and sometimes i think i should just be single but i try to make it work for our wonderful son then again i think i'm staying for all the wrong reasons.

Answer 1

Get a marriage counselor. You're engaged. Maybe you both need that third view to help you express concerns, calmly, that normally turn into anger or hurt.

Spice is an adjustment or a booster not a miracle drug. Honesty and understanding build a great marriage or loving relationship. The latter is the hardest one.

If it doesn't work out, It's better to have a relationship apart form your fiance than to live together in discontent. Children know far more than most people give them credit for.

Answer 2

If by "extreme" you mean he hits you, it doesn't matter why you're staying. It matters that you're not leaving for a good reason. It will NOT get better by itself. It will not magically get better when you're married. You get to decide what kind of life your child experiences.  

Answer 3

Spicing it up is what you do when your s*x life is in trouble.  You guys have deeper issues.  If you really want to save this relationship, the two of you should get into counseling together.  If you can't resolve issues between yourselves, it might help to have an objective third party there to guide you.

Answer 4

Yeah, staying in a relationship that's gone sour for your child is no longer the fad these days.  What's important is that the primary care giver, you, is happy or more happy then you were with your partner. Children pick up on this immediately so be happy in your situation or get out!

Answer 5

It sounds like you have already made your decision. Doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship. Tip it over and see what spills out.

Answer 6

You can't spice up your relationship when there are problems, it sounds like you're trying to cover up/deny or avoid what's really going on between you and your fiance, that your relationship might be over. I'm sorry but staying together just for the sake of your child isn't a reason to stay together at all, and isn't a good environment for your child especially if you and your fiance are fighting all the time.