So i've been having s*x but ?

Question

my first time, he couldn't go all the way in it hurt to bad.

the second time, he went in all the way, and then it was fine. except i bleed. it hurt at first but then it was fine. then the condom broke and he said he pulled out before. and then he put a new one on and went at it again...this time is didn't hurt and I didn't bleed as much.

then tonight, we did it. and i bleed more than the 1st or second time. then he " went" and then we went at it again and i didn't bleed that much.

when is the bleeding going to stop?

it only hurts when he starts going in, then at a certain point it feels good.

should i be concerned?

Answer 1

It hurts partially because you are probably anticipating pain and tightening the muscles at the entry to the v****a.  You also probably could use some lubrication as well.  The tingly sensation was likely a result of hyperventilating.  You do that naturally enough when you are in pain or are anticipating pain, and the result would be the tingles.  No, it's not asthma.  It's pain, dear.  Try bearing down when he is trying to enter you, and try some lubrication.  It probably wouldn't hurt to have Romeo slow down a little either, and get you a little more in the mood before he dives in.  Since you are using condoms for birth control, make sure the lubricant is okay to use with those as well.  Basically, slow down and relax.  Take your time, and things should go easier.

Answer 2

everything sounds pretty normal to me. it will get better and better and the pain and bleeding will stop eventually.  you just have to relax and go with the flow.  

Answer 3

Yes, you can continue to bleed after the first time. A few things however, can help that in the future. 1. Proper lubrication - saliva is the best but perhaps for you since your new a store bought lubrication like eros or ky would be good. 2. Foreplay - touching, sucking, l*****g etc. on YOU before penetration should naturally lubricate you as well as relax your vaginal muscles making insertion easier. 3. It helps to be comfortable enough with yourself to be able to tell him what your feeling and what he should do to make it feel better (openness, trial and error). 4. BREATHE- Breathing will relax you as well as get the blood flowing to all parts of your body (especially the clitoris) which provides maximum pleasure. 5. Enjoyment - s*x should be a mutual joy. If you're not enjoying yourself don't partake or guide him so that you too are enjoying yourself. On a side note - It's good that you are using condoms, CONTINUE TO DO SO! The pull out method is not an effective method of birth control or std control. You can still get pregnant from pre-ejaculate (something that guys secrete even without sexual activity and o****m). There are a billion types of condoms, help your guy find a condom that works for him. Condoms do bust but more than likely a result of choosing the wrong one. Check out www.condomania.com they have many types to choose from and a condom wizard. BE SAFE and ENJOY YOURSELF!

Answer 4

The vaginal bleeding will eventually go away, a lot of girls bleedtheirr first time, i personallydidn'tt but everyone is diff. This could also be happening because he is well endowed, and being too rough with you. If the bleeding does not stop you should see your doctor, and about the tingling..i have no idea whatsthat'ss about, but with my first time i felt physically sick afterwords, and my friend gotnauseouss during her first time, it could just be nerves so don't worry about that unless it gets worse. Hope i helped :)

Answer 5

sounds  like you guys were having a rough go.  Relax, it will get better with time!

Answer 6

My first time was killer too, and they were for a few times after that too.

The bleeding is just the tearing of your hymen. It IS possible to happen more then once if it didn't tear as much as most do the first time/

The bleeding will stop soon, I promise!

It usually hurts when he's going in so don't worry :)

When your arms and lips get tingly it just means that your body isn't getting the correct oxygen level, often due to hyperventelation. No asthma at all, so don't worry about that. Just don't breathe so hard! =)

Also, if you're calm and 'excited' a little more, you'll find it easier to go in and won't be as painful, making it SO much more enjoyable!

Answer 7

I think both of you are in toooooo much of a hurry.  Slow down just a little and read up on the importance of foreplay because that gives your body time to be ready to have s*x.

About the condom breaking,,, that is usually caused by one of two reasons.  First reason is if he used a condom that was old and he had been carrying it around for a while.

Second and most frequent reason is that he put it on incorrectly.  Before you, or he, start to unroll the comdom on his p***s it is very very important to draw back the f******n as far as possible and then unroll it about half way down, then pull the f******n up toward the end and finish unrolling the condom all the way down.

If you do it that way, it's almost impossible for even a cheap old  condom to break.

Take your time and everything will work better.

Answer 8

If you bleed more than regular it is because he is to rough and hurting you. You probably have a cut inside because he hurt you and that causing you to bleed every time you have s*x because you don't leave it enough time to close up. So I recommend that you don't have s*x for 3 to 4 days till the cut in your v****a heals. And that thing that it hurts when it goes in is probly because you're sore from doing it allot in such litlle time thats happened to me. Or because you don't  how can I put it ?    Get wet.