So i have heard from the ex...?

Question

Right she left me 3 months ago, she went back to her ex bf 2wks. after telling me that she loved me and she has never felt happier as when we were together. We were even going to move in together. She then runs away back to her ex and ignores any attempt of mine to get in touch. Tried one last time today and she has gone and told me that she is pregnant. This feels painful i admit always hoped it could have been us in the future. Its just feels like she ran away from what she felt for me and went back to him through guilt and got pregnant. Especially as she said that she couldn't trust him when they split before we got together. He doesn't do jack for her. Thing is he already has one kid with someone else and even though she has said that she loves me she will stay with him for the babies sake as he only gets to see his other kid 2 days a week. But the thing is i still love her to bits and would gladly and happily take both her and the child. I would never deny a person there rights to there own child and he would be welcome to come and see the kid anytime he wishes. Its just now i feel lost, haven't felt this way since my dad died. I don't want to lose her, i'm happy that she is pregnant even though its not how i imagined it. yes it almost killed me knowing that this has happened but there is no room in my heart but what i feel for her. Pain comes and goes but love is forever. And i love her totally, utterly and truly. Just feeling so messed up about all of this. My head is pounding.

Answer 1

Sorry about your pain, been there only it was a boyfriend not a girlfriend and he was not pregnant.;-)  But him leaving and coming back and leaving and so on is very hurtful.

You will meet someone new but give yourself a chance to heal and have a rebound relationship. it helps. but she can change also.

It sounds like she is confused as to where she wants to be in life. The old saying "you never know what you got till its gone", well show her what she had but don't take it back (if thats what you want to do), without her giving it a fight to get you back because if shes not willing to fight and do what she has to to get you back then she is not serious enough.  Don't let her keep walking all over you because now she sees you as a rug and expects you to be there when she wants to change her mind again.

Answer 2

Aww, i can understand how you feel.

I think if that she's made that decision then that's the decision she's made. There's not much you can do to change it.

You seem like a decent lad and you could easily find someone else.

If its her ex boyfriend's baby, then let her stay with him. You seem very compassionate about this whole situation. I think you should wait and see what happens. What decision she makes or whatever, think it over rationally, and don't let your self do something you'll regret just cos you have feelings for her.  

Answer 3

i know your heart aches badly now. but believe it or not you will meet another woman and you will feel foolishly over why you ever loved this woman in the first place.

Answer 4

Forget about that liar, find a new girl and show her that you don't need her .