So if a guy that you have been on 5 dates with puts off calling you to hang out with friends, does he care?

Question

So if a guy that you have been on 5 dates with says we can talk on the phone and he text messages me and says "Plans changed- I am going downtown to listen to live music with friends, you can call 2morrow while I am at work in the evening" I should tell you the date we went on this weekend was no that fabulous, we couldn't think of anything to talk about. I really this guy. We couldn't think of much to talk about b/c it been weeks since we last saw each other b/c of his vacation. What do you think- is he pulling away and seeking greener pastures? What does it take for a man to decide this isn't right for me?

Answer 1

I'd drop this guy.  He does not have his priority's right.  If you don't have things to talk about on dates.  He takes vacation and does not have anything to talk about then..... Sounds like not much in common. Find someone that you do.  Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

Two things come to mind.  He was intolerably rude in canceling plans like that.  Also, he should call you, why is he making you call him?  Has he been rude before?

Secondly, if I was away from my gf for weeks when I was dating I think I would have had more to talk about, not less.

He probably does care.  His priorities are just a little out.  As for the rudeness, try to decide whether or not you can put up with that in a bf.

Answer 3

To me, it sounds like there has been a bit of disinterest. Next time you hang out or go out together see if its still awkward. If it is, bring it up. He more than likely notices it too. Relationships don't always have to involved talking 24/7. Just because he canceled doesn't mean he's not interested. I once canceled a date because a friend had an extra yankees ticket. The girl understood and would have done the same thing. It's not that, that your date isn't important, it's just when an opportunity to do something different comes up, sometimes it tickles your fancy more than the date. Sounds kind of bad, I know, I don't like to break plans, but it happens.

Answer 4

Yes, I would say he cares. You need to make sure you aren't too clingy or controlling in a relationship. Remember when you date someone it doesn't mean they have no other friends or never do anything without you. Both of you should have plenty of time to do things with your other friends, too.

Answer 5

i think that you might be overnanalyzing things right now.  he might have really wanted to hang with his friends at that time.  it happens.  however, if this behavior becomes habitual, then you might have an issue.  for right now, i wouldnt worry about it.  

Answer 6

i think he cares, but hes subliminally telling you to be more aggressive in the relationship.

try blocking out ur number when you call him. just breathe real hard into the phone then hang up.

drive by his house at 1/2 hour intervals.

peek in his windows @ nite to see what hes doing...tap on the window and run away.

break into all his email, myspace, facebook accounts, and leave love notes.

when hes @ work, leave post-it notes all over his windshield telling him how much you miss him.

and next time he goes w/his friends instead of you, call and threaten his friends, telling them that hes all yours now.

guys love this.

good luck.

Answer 7

yes he cares but right now he wants to be with his friends.

Answer 8

Sounds like he only wants to see you when it`s convenient for him.

Answer 9

Two can play at that game sweetie, do the same thing and see if he likes it! seems to me when u like someone u wanna spend time with them, specially when ur in the getting to know one another phase.

dont sit home waiting on him, go about ur life.. and if it works it works if it doesnt.. then u know!

Answer 10

5 dates doesn't obligate anyone to be with you forever or keep dating you. If he calls, fine. If he doesn't fine. Doesn't sound like you have much in common anyway. Let it go

Answer 11

you guys should have had lots to talk about, like for example.. What he did on his vacation, talk about the vacations you been on or would like to go on, talk about what you have been doing while he was gone.  He probably is bored with you, if you guys were into each other than you would have found things to talk about. Were as y'all have not seen each other in weeks..... So maybe his friends are not as boring as you

Answer 12

I think he just wanted to go see live music with his friends.

Answer 13

if you couldn't think of much to talk about even after him being on vacation then it's not right and he knows it.

Answer 14

Generally speaking, I would think it's not bad to hang out with friends. It just means there is balance. But to cancel a date because something better came up is rude, and if you guys have nothing to talk about, he probably sensed that too.

Doesn't sound like much of a loss. What about him not being right for YOU? If you can't even talk to him when he'd only been gone a few weeks, that's a bad sign.