So irratated right now? Do i have a right to be mad?

Question

ok so everytime i talk to my boyfriend on the phone and hes in a bad mood he hangs up on me and turns his phone off which irratates the h**l out of me!!! ive told him that it makes me mad when he does that so he knows when he hangs up on me im gonna be pissed when i talk to him again, but when he decides to call me he acts like nothing happened. AND i try to call his moms house and he tells her not 2 answer it because its me and she doesnt.....so i told him to take my moms number out of his phone. Im just so sick and tired of all the bullshit me and him go thru and everyone tells me i can do better but i love him so much and after all tha S**t hes put me thru i cant picture a day without him. ive just had it... he just did it again and i want to call it quits.. how do i cope with it when i do end it because thats my most fear is losing the one i love and having the thought that hes with another girl and i tell him all the time i just want to be loved like i love him. and its like he changes for a day and then BAM! right back tha same way tha next! help!

Answer 1

Number one, yes you have a right to be angry.  That is so rude, disrespectful and mean.  You do sound young, though, so please don't think that this is the guy you have to spend the rest of your life with.  If he isn't willing to change that kind of behavior then I do suggest ending it.  I'm sure you know that relationships are about compromise.  There will be some things about a person that you WILL just have to accept if you want to be with them.  However, abuse is not one of them.  Abuse is not just hitting, its words, its actions.  His actions are abusive.  Anything someone does to purposefully hurt you is abusive.  As far as how to deal if you choose to break up, just surround yourself with people who love you and whom you can talk to.  You will need a friend who can deal with you letting out your feelings for a while.  The pain WILL fade, though, and there will be a point when you say, "I can't believe I put up with him for so long."  That's the thing about human resilience, we are able to bounce back even when we think it's not possible.  So, try to really think about what is BEST for you,and do it.

Answer 2

Yes you have a reason to be mad. To hang up on anyone is rude.

Answer 3

Either you're psycho, or he's a loser.  in any case, if someone hangs up on you again and again and again, you probably aren't right for each other.  the next time he does that, call him, when he doesn't answer, let him know you wanted to know if it was okay to sleep with his best friend (or dad), turn off your phone, and go get laid (his bf or dad).  You'll probably have some fun, and you'll teach him not to be an a*****e.

Answer 4

You shouldn't cope with it because that's c**p. It sounds like he's really immature and I am sure you can do much better. I say ditch the little punk, he sounds like a jerk.  

Answer 5

it's a control tactic, and its WORKING great on you!!!! dump his dumb immature a@@. can you imagine living your whole life like that??? what if you got hurt or were stranded  and he didnt pick up his phone WHAT THE h**l KIND OF MAN IS THAT?????? you can get way better, someone who is not emotionally abusive like that! you may love him but her REALLY doesnt love you, he shows it CLEARLY in his actions

Answer 6

I'm sad your most fear has been realized lol. Teenage 'love' is hilarious!

Answer 7

Well, he's a guy and most guys don't like arguing over the phone. I think it's rude to hang up in your face, but take some responsibility yourself. What is it that leads to the hang up? I mean I doubt you 2 are having a fun conversation then wham, he hangs up. As most guys, he probably gets to the point where he is sick of arguing and just hangs up. So if you want him to change his ways, then you also need to change some of yours. YOu need to not hang on to someone cause you don't want to envision them with another. If you love someone truly, you will want them to be happy even if it's not with you. What I mean,is that if you love him, stop all the petty c**p. If it's just not there, let him go. Most guys don't chat it up all the time about their feelings, they show them when they are with you. I think both of you have a role in this. If he doesn't want to talk, don't call his mom like that. Just give it time and when you do talk, don't get all pissy, if you treat him with respect, if he is a good guy, then he will do the same for you. But don't expect a male to be all gooshy and emotional.

Answer 8

Gurl I'm sorry to say but you can do better!You have every right to be mad as well. And if he realllyy lovees you he wouldn't just hang up on you when hes in a bad mood.

Answer 9

Dude, this guy sounds like he's 10 years old. Get a real man.

Answer 10

This looks like a dead one...sorry to burst your bubble but you need to get a definite YES or a definite NO from him. This MAYBE c**p is killing you and yes there is a possiblility he is already with another girl hence why he doesn't want you to call him cuz he'll feel bad to talk to you.

Answer 11

Wow girl, maybe if he is hanging up then your aren't understanding how he is feeling about what your saying.

Seems to me that you only have two options

1) be quiet and deal

or if that doesn't work for you

option 2) get out

Maybe your are in love with the person he was not the the person he is.

Answer 12

who says you HAVE  to stay with him??? hes acting immature and you DONT have to deal with it.. he sees that you go after him, and call and bother w. his bullshit so he keeps on doing it because u fall for it everytime.. who deserves more respect? you or him? YOU do.. so what if u love him!! are u gonna let him mistreat u?? no.. sometimes u have to make some of the hardest choices but they turn out to be good ones.. you dont have 2 stay with him or put up w. his S**t.. you guys need a break, maybe then he'll learn to appreciate u... girl plz, he sounds like a child !!! just end it.. dont ever make a guy your priority when he only makes u an option !!!!!!!

Answer 13

He sounds incredibly immature and spiteful- why would you want to be with someone like that? Loving somone that hurts you is never healthy and never justified. You'd be better off if you just broke up with him and moved on. It doesn't sound like the communication between you if very good anyway, a key component to a good relationship. Tell him if he can't grow up and stay on the phone like a big boy, you're going to act like a big girl and leave him. And you should. No one deserves to be treated like that. The best way to get the message across to him: hang up on him. Good luck!

Answer 14

Apparently, he doesn’t love you as you love him. Otherwise he won’t act like a jerk and toy with your emotion. How in the world are you in love with this guy again? What is it that you like about him? Is it because he once did something nice that making you want to stay with him forever? Are you annoyed by him more than loved by him? Does he do anything that show how much he appreciates having you?

And lastly, why do you believe you have to waste your time with someone who acts so immature and not look elsewhere for happiness? there are better guys out there you know.