So my boyfriend and I went out to dinner but the wait was 40 minutes.?

Question

He told the lady at the front of the restaurant not to put our names down because he didn't want to wait.

They when we get in the car, He starts yelling. Those people are only waiting because they want to show off their money and prove to everybody they've got money.

I'm like..No. I've been there and let me tell you the food is great for the price.

He's like.......Whatever. Only people who want to show off how much money they have wait for their food.

And for some reason if we go out with friends or anything, he always has to annouce to everyone, how big a tip his going to give the waiter. He never even leaves more than $5 dollars always.

He's always telling me, I have to dress nice and go to nice places so people know we have a lot of money. We only make about 35K!!

What can I do to stop this!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

he sounds a little too concerned with what other people think..  if that bothers you as much as it would bother me you might want to re-evaluate this situation..  

but as for the valentine's day thing he was probably pissed b/c he didn't plan ahead and this plan didn't work out..  he probably didn't want to disappoint you..

Answer 2

I've heard that most divorces are because of money.  Hopefully this guy is just a phase you're going through, because it's VERY difficult to change a person's views on money.  

I doubt you can stop this and you should probably just let this relationship run its course because eventually you will find somebody who is more compatible with you.

Waiting for food means you are showing off?  I'm from a small town and we wait in line to get into the Mexican restaurant NOT because we want to show how much money we have (which isn't much :o) but because we like the food.

Truly, you can do better.

Answer 3

I see he's not a big tipper! I don't like to have to wait when I go for dinner. I go to a restaurant, and I want to eat. This bs of having to wait is ridiculous!  I'll wait 15 minutes, but that's it. I mean seriously, you go to eat because you're hungry. And by the time you sit down, order drinks, order your food, and for them to cook it, you're talking another half hour. And if they're busy, 45 at least.

He sounds like he's insecure. Get rid of him. If he's like this simply when going out to eat, I would hate to see him in other areas of life.

Answer 4

1) Move to a bigger town.

OR

2) Get a new BF who isn't such a s*****k/cheapskate!

You're worth it aren't you?

Answer 5

A 40 minute wait on Valentines Day  at a nice restaurant where you don't have a booking  sounds perfectly reasonable to me. It sounds like your fella might have a bit of an inferiority  complex going on here.

Answer 6

If he had any clue how to dine out, he should have known to make reservations on Valentine's Day.  Second, tipping should be 15-20% of your total bill...not a set dollar amount.  If he never tips more than $5, I assume the bill has never been over $30...or he cheated the server.  Tell him to shut his mouth until you can get him some etiquette lessons....and eat at home until then.

Answer 7

You can't be happy in a relationship if you think you need to change the other person.  If he does something that bothers you then let him know that it bothers you.  If he does not see this as something that he could improve about himself, and at least puts forth an effort to change it, then you need to decide.  Can I live with this quality forever or is it a deal breaker.

We all have to deal with little things about eachother we do not like but we have to understand we cannot change another person, we can just tell them how we feel.  

If one, some or many of his qualities cause you discomfort then you may want to move on.  Is this how you want a role model to behave in front of your future children?

Answer 8

First, tell hime he should tip, 15-20 percent, then tell him not to worry about what other people think. Sounds like he has some kind of complex and you could do much better than this guy.

Answer 9

Kick him to the curb!  He can save money on tips and you can find someone who treats you with the respect you deserve.

Answer 10

That's a little tricky. He sounds like he has a bit of an anger problem. Perhaps he's insecure about the financial situation in your household, that could have been what triggered his emotional sort of "breakdown" in the car. You might have to sit him down and speak with him about it (no yelling), and explain that money is no object in your relationship and he shouldn't be so worried about it. Also, it's not always "rich" people who sit and wait for a table. EVERYONE who wants to eat at the particular restaurant will sit and wait. Take a seat at the bar next time and grab a glass of wine and engage in conversation. I bet the time will fly by.

Good Luck =)