So my boyfriend gets mad when i put him on hold.....?

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like on the phone especially. like my parents call, and i'm like "ugh hold on my moms calling it'l be quick" and he gets mad and hangs up.

especially if its my dad.

they do bug alot tho!

but he;s saying i put him last.

or even when i have to do something in the house real quick, ut my hair up and its hard to do it while on the phone

he gets mad.

i mean if he had another call, or had to do something quick i'd be patient, idc.

and same if i go somewhere, i tell him i don't know what ime i'll be back...like i can't guarantee...i never tell him an EXACT time i'll be back home to call him.

but i text him like the whole time i'm gone.

and he says i make him wait all day for me to call.

and he's tired of it.

i mean, wtf. if he was busy and had to go somewhere all day, and he at least took the time to text me while he was gone and then call me later, i'd be glad he at least wanted to call me as soon as he got home.

shouldn''t he think the same way?

but its true, my dad does bug and talks forever on he never shuts up

but i dont want to disrespect my dad because everytime i do, he like grounds me from seeing my boyfriend.

same with my mom.

and idk what to do...

wht do i tell him?

i've tried but he says i have no respect for him.

WHAT DO I DO?!!!

he also says "i feel like i'm dating your parents"

and i can't jsut break up with him.

and i KNOW he loves me still.

he's not just finding excuses to leave me.

we're almost a year.

i need to fix this.

should i just try to obey and ignore myparents??

and everytime i try to explain, he says he doesn't want to hear my B.S

like before i told him i'll ignore them idc cuz theyre annoying and they seem to control my life.

and then later i tried asking what to do like they're the ones who make my rules i'm lucky they let me be with him

and he hung up.

UGH help?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to say this but it sounds like he is a control freak. You're young, and you don't need this kind of abusive relationship in your life. And yes this is abuse. He needs to be able to let you have your own life! Get a new boyfriend who isn't so much work!

Answer 2

If he's like that, then he's a deuce bag...no matter how many times he says he loves you. He's not worth your time.

Answer 3

text him DUH or live with him already

Answer 4

He's your boyfriend, They are your family.  Out of those 2 choices?  The boyfriend is SUPPOSED to come last.  when he's your HUSBAND, only THEN he can come first.

and guess what?  Unless you don't talk to your parents at all, he IS dating them.

He needs to get over himself.  This is an abusive type of boyfriend, but good for you for at least seeing he's a controlling possesive creep.

Dump him.  Seriously.  This is how it started with my friend and it did NOT turn out good at all.

Answer 5

haha thats to long 4 me 2 read but u sound like high-maince girl

Answer 6

Your boyfriend sounds kind of immature.

No offense. If he hangs up on you just because

you're talking to your parents, then he needs to get hisself checked...

Family comes first, no matter what.

Answer 7

He needs to get over himself. You've been dating him a year; your parents have been raising your for a lifetime. Of course they come first.

He hangs up on you.

"You make me wait all day for your call and I'm tired of it"

"You have no respect for me"

"I feel like I'm dating your parents."

"I don't want to hear your bullshit."

You shouldn't be hearing that from your boyfriend. He sounds like a loser, he needs to grow and start treating you right.

Answer 8

hon he is imature and not treating you well, he dont deserve you, i'd def break up with him, may hurt some now, but you know what, you'll find someone better who you will love more soon enough

Answer 9

i know you probably wont do this, but you really need to break up with him. i dated a jerk like him for over a year before i was married, and he acted the same way.

you need to realize that you can do so much better and that you arent doing anything wrong, its HIM. he is over controlling.

Answer 10

Like OMG !! WHO CARES TELL HIM TO GROW UP ..

Answer 11

i'm kinda proud of  u ,cuz u r not trying to make excuses to your bf just like other girls i mean atleast u admitt he got problems and the thing is he's JUST your boy friend not your husband so he better suck it up cuz family come first every where ! and seems to me he aint worth your time he's abussive and more controllin than ur parents if he really likes u he better shut  up if not he can kiss you good bye !

good luck dumping him  

Answer 12

he's a t**t. Get rid of him before his attitude turns nasty, he's trying to possess you all the time. Let him go, he can't tell you what sort of relationship you can have for your parents, he needs to be the one making comprises with your time rather than forcing you to drop your family. Having respect for him doesnt mean disobeying and disrespectin your parents, he is the one that should be respecting them, it's only because of them he even gets to see you