So my friend seems to not like me as much now that im not "partying" as much....?

Question

So I used to drink and smoke and all that with my best friend all the time.

i decided to not smoke at all anymore. I rarely drink.

And I think its coplety fine she does...its just a personal choice.

She acts like I am silly and my decision is weird. Now, she seems to hang out a lot more with people who do.

Is that reasonable of her or just shallow?

Answer 1

Your "friend" is being an immature idiot.

Sorry if that's harsh but it's true.   She should be supportive of your decision to quit smoking and take better care of yourself.    Instead, she's being judgemental.

Ask yourself if you really need this person in your life.   Is the friendship worth it?    

Answer 2

It sounds to me like she only hung out with you in the first place because you were fun to party with. Now that you've decided that that whole scene isn't for you, she doesn't want anything to do with you. If you think she's worth keeping as a friend, talk to her. But I'd say to move on.

Answer 3

   When you change your habits you make the old habits lonely  that includes your friends that were a habit also =.stick to your guns= don't despair ,things will change for you in a positive way. She may cut some of her party life down. a new friend may come out of this. No she is not shallow, she is in denial  that you could wise up so young. If she sees you doing things without the partyharty ways and putting the money to things you want   Like you can relax now without the drama of  backlash from party problems ,she might follow you.  

Answer 4

seems shallow

seems like she only hung out with you because you did what she wanted you to. and that doesnt sound like a good friend to me

Answer 5

Your friend definitely isn't being very reasonable or understanding. She should respect your decision or even be proud of you for standing your ground and changing your lifestyle (it's a hard thing to do). If she doesn't respect you and would prefer to hang out with other people just because you don't party as much then she probably isn't really your friend since she doesn't seem to be interested in your personality or spending time with you outside of the party scene. In my opinion, your friendship probably doesn't have very much substance and you should find other friends who share your values.

Answer 6

stand by your choices.

you will find other people with the same values you have.

Answer 7

seems like this person is not your real friend if she doesn't accept the decisions you make.