So my mom borrowed $30,000 from my grandma. Now my grandma is calling me because my mom wont answer ?

Question

Ok Like I guess my mom owes my grandparents money ( as usual ) . So My mom isnt answering her phone . Its been like this for a while . So my grandma calls me like every month asking me for each of my brothers phone numbers to see if they have had contact with my mom.

I gave her one of my brothers cell numbers , but now he dont answer when my grandma calls ( he still lives at home with my mom so thats prolly why he dont answer ) . Now she wants my other brothers number and I will ask him for it , but I hate being involved in all this. I dont think my brothers should be invovled either .

I cant tell my grandmother no . She is Japanese and that would be very disrespectful ( its a cultural thing ) .

I dont talk to my mom because she set me up for failure growing up and I had to get where I am today all by myself . I have alot of respect and love for my grandmother . I dont know what to do .

What would you do ?

Answer 1

just keep talking ot her and answering. i mean dont you think she has a reason to want her money?  just give her your brothers numbers. if oyu ahve alot of love and respect for your grandma, you should try ot help her. it may be a little irratating but put yourself in her place. good luck.

Answer 2

why not ask your grandmother to make an unexpected visit to visit your mother so she could ask about the money?

Answer 3

Tell your grandma that you love and respect her but that is her daughter and she loaned her the money. That you do not really get along with your mom and you feel alone too. That you suggest that they never loan out there money again. Tell your grandma to leave a message on her phone  and telling your mom that she will not ever get a dime for any reason if she does not at least start answering the phone and trying to get it paid off. If your grandma has the money tell her gram sorry but you know how she is. This really bothers me and I do ubderstand. Tell her to go by her house. Send her a letter. But you do not want to hurt your brothers by invoving them because it hurts you. Tell your grandma that you really do care. Try to change the subject and get off the phone.

Answer 4

You need to call your mom up and tell her to start being an adult and not having you take this fall and madness for her.

Answer 5

Become a "Ward of the State..."

Answer 6

i think i would just stay out of the situation...tell your grandmother that you are not involved with your mother and you know nothing of the situation which is pretty much true  

Answer 7

I would tell your grandma that she should go take her to court.  That you cant do anything about it.  Tell her you are sorry she is in this position but it isnt fair to get all the grandchildren involved.  That you would help if you could but your mom failed  you too in life.

Answer 8

maybe you can tell your grandmother to take your mom to court. i see that all the time on judge judy. in fact, it sounds like a case for j.j., she'd prob'ly give your mom all sorts of h**l. you shouldn't have to be involved in it at all..yeah, tell gram to take mom to court. or at least some sort of legal intervention. otherwise your gram should just consider the money as a gift, cause i doubt she'll be getting it back.  

Answer 9

Explain to her that it puts you in a bad position with your brothers.  Hopefully your grandmother will never let your mother borrow money again.  I congratulate you for getting away from your mother.  Sounds like she never grew up.  Good Luck

Answer 10

I would have your Grandmother's number blocked from calling you

Answer 11

stop answering your phone too.

Answer 12

this sum of money is really big. I think that your grandma is really desperate to have to call you. but you have to tell her the truth too.

just tell her that it is embarrassing to you. and if she needs her money she has to come down to your mom and ask for it, because even if you give her your other bro's no. he won't answer the phone.

just do it and i think that your grandma will understand.

I'm sorry your other 2 brothers have to live with this kinda mother!

good luck!

Answer 13

Tell your grandma what you just said. That it's between her and your mom. Not you or your brothers. Not to be disrespectful, but to keep people's business where it should be.

Answer 14

In the first place, you are not responsible for either you mom or your grandparents. I would suggest you call your grandma and ask her to go and meet your mom personally. 30k is not a small amount (to me at least).  Your grandma actually are using you because you are nearer to your mom.  You should talk nicely to your grandma.  In the mean time, if you can see your mom, pls do so, and do the same thing.

Answer 15

tell your grandma you dont want to get yourself and ur bro in the middle of this charade .tell her she need to visit your mom she will probably understand

Answer 16

wow ow. people shud never borrow money from family or friends!! that wus foolish of ur mom!! an shes bein even more imature now, not even contacting her. *thenks* if i were u, i wud tell my gramma that im reallay uncomfortable being a part of the issue, and that u welcome calls from her, but u cant help with the money issue ♥ i hope i helped an everee theng werks out

Answer 17

What I would do is kinda tricky. I'd invite each over for dinner. Come up with lame excuses Like Mom you're getting old and I'd like to be friends before you die... And then for granny Just say I miss seeing you.

And if y wanted to make things REALLY interesting, you could have sets of throwing stars, and knives set up at their place settings.