So sick of people pushing me around...?

Question

well i just lost a lot of people to a car accident not too long ago... they were close family members. yet the people at the school still push me around...

-we do not have a consalor

-i cannot switch schools for money reasons

-i cant get a therapist for money reasons

-i just DO NOT have the courage to stand up for myself and theres nothing i can do to help it...

people roll their eyes at me. its not a big school. 200 people in the whole school maybe? i cant understand we all get sick of seeing the same 20 peoples faces every day for 8 years.. but i dress different, i look different, i like different music, i like different stuff. people pick on me about it, people talk trash to my face and behind my back. im cracking under the pressure of school getting harder and harder... but i cant stand being pushed around and mouthed off too.

i cant stand up for myself... it makes things worse, it makes people more mad, it creates more drama...

Answer 1

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

- dr. seuss

Answer 2

well i am soo sorry to hear that darling, but you know that situation is very difficult at that point all you can really do is try to push through it. if it helps you could try an online support group. and if you ever need someone to talk to i am here for you. okay?

good luck to you.

and i am sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 3

I always have been pushed around so your not the only one sister!  But I never really had someone push me into that kind of insent!

Answer 4

There just jealous that you have indivituality and A LIFE:) i say kick em;)

Answer 5

i remeber dis dude a lower grade from be his grand parents dide for a bus acident n dis kiid came up to him and said dat he was the driver dat killed his grandparents n the teacher ask wat happened and he told the teacher and the teacher told the parent n he was od cute but he parent were mad dat he did dat soo they sahved his head and he eyebrow off

or just cry soo badly saying y everything  and sum people will fell bad for u and help u dat wat some other kiid told me  

Answer 6

i known that because i was in the sam thing happen to me and i just del with it and move on but if they call you name then they have a probel with you

Answer 7

Have you tried seeking help from the teaching staff? Please don't let it get you down i've been through the whole bullying thing because i was to sensitive and different. I really do understand how standing up for your self can make things worse however backing down doesn't help either, try a short come back to their insults and ignore them. if people don't like you for what you are they're not worth associating with. remember school is only a fraction of your life there is so much more time to meet people like you're self.

Answer 8

play a sport anyone dosent matter or a club that will make people slowly get used to hanging out with u

Answer 9

block out what they say the only reason the talk is because they have no lives. if u cant block them out try to find a teacher to confide in.

Answer 10

You need help. I do not know whether you have close family members to talk to, or maybe a teacher at your school. If you feel unable to talk one on one write it all down, and show it to someone adult and close. If you cannot do that try calling child line, or the Samaritans. Just letting out your thoughts can help. Most important ask God for help, he always listens, and if you ask for help through prayer, just talking out loud, as though to a trusted friend, and the answers will come, i promise.

Answer 11

JUST TRY TO TALK TO A COUNSELOR OR SOMETHING.... DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK... REALLY

THEY DONT MATTER

Answer 12

that is a really bad problem you have,, but when you are different people tend to get afraid and that is how they react. There is nothing wrong with being different but if i were you i would go talk to a teacher or someone maybe at church because i promise you most of us have been pushed around at one time or another, just don't lose your cool and get your own self in trouble, Please find someone close around you to talk to. Maybe a close teacher could even help you but don't change the way you are for anyone,,smile

Answer 13

why do you care what they think of you? It doesnt matter what they think and you dont have to put up with them, just ignore them and/or walk away

Answer 14

I understand

Feel like when it comes down to it, there aren't many options, ya

here's an offer :)  

..a disclaimer - you gotta to open your mind a bit wide for this one at first

http://classics.mit.edu/Epictetus/epicen...

Print this out or Favourite it or whatever; Read this through [BOTTOM to TOP] haha ;)  take some time to try some parts out, not all at once.

I like how he focuses on the practical philosophy and not that lofty stuff that's for talking about at dinner with your relatives :P

Take Care,

Lee T.

Answer 15

First let me tell you that im sorry for your loss. As for the other problem im affraid it all depends on you. Is very important to act, dress, eat only the way you want and overall be yourself. But you have to defend that. You have a hard life and you will have sooner or later to find courage. Thats what you need. Is hard but try not to listen to the c**p from other people they dont use neither ther brain nor their heart. I dont know how you behave with others but i advise you to be nice cause youll need a lot of friend. Chose them carefully. Confide to them if you have them. Be strong and listen to all the advices you get. Best wishes.

Answer 16

Well most of the time the reasons y people would pick on you because they're jealous or they have there own problems & they don't know how 2 deal with them except to make themselves feel more important then other people. You have to stand up 4 urself even if you dnt want to, you shouldn't be upset from what other people think. You will be your own worst enemy if you dnt do something 2 change ur life. You can try 2 join free programs over the summer wher you can meet new kids other than the ones from your school. just always tell urself that ur not a pushovr. If u want 2 talk in person about ur problems u can always go to ur school councler. I hope i could help.                                                                                                                  <= <= <= <=<=  (: (: (: (: (: (: (:  

Answer 17

i would try to find a teacher to talk to. or possibly a free online therapist with advice.  maybe if you ingore them they'll get tired.  or you could just punch someone in the nose.  kids usually won't mess with someone who punched another kid in the face.  

Answer 18

girl, you should be telling them that stop pushing you around cause you are not going to take it anymore. what you need to do is stand up and push them back. But no fighting in school anyway. You must and always have courage to protect yourself from anyone or anybody cause it's not right for them to do that to you. If you keep letting them to push you around then what's the point to stand up for yourself. Or if you stand up and tell them that you are tired of it and they just laugh at your face... then you should push them back. There are times where you have to be strong for yourself only and no one else. You don't have to take the BS from other people. You got to learn how to stand up for yourself someday when you are on your own as well.  

Answer 19

Don't listen to everything. It might be hard if u think about it, but if u just make it so they think u don't care, then they might stop. This happens to everyone, it's not like ur the only one who likes different types of music or who dresses different. Ur just putting too much thought into it.  

Answer 20

i think its cool that you are different..  it does take a lot of courage to stand up for urself...but after too long it will be harder and harder and ur going to end up hurting someone hard.  

"be urself, everyone else is taken" - oscar wilde

Answer 21

there is help out there talk to a teacher about this you are being bullied you need to speak to your head teacher if your class teacher is no good or may be a doctor or a priest look in the yellow pages or your local library for contact numbers for government run support groups for young people and counselors  

Answer 22

  Two words that will handle most of life's sticky problems and they are, Martial arts!!!