So the guy was "gazing" at me?

Question

Okay, you guys are probably first thinking that this guy is a stalker or something but it's nothing like that. My parents just got divorced and so sat-monday night I stay with my dad at his apt. His apt is for 21 year olds and older. So last Sunday I was hanging out with him and his friends and his "surrogate family" (a family that lives in the apt complex and his friends and my sister and I's friends too.) Well that night we watched a movie with our surrogate family and when the parents came in they said I had an admirer, or something along those lines and that he was gazing at me when we were playing catch. We all play catch and keep away a lot in the pool lol. So I'm 19 and he's 27 or 28, and if I get to know him better and he gets to know me better and we are friends and then we like each other like that, should I go out with him?

Answer 1

age isn't nothin but a number (: strut your stuff . and starting off with an older guy is better than starting out with a younger guy. MATURITY COUNTS.

Answer 2

I wouldn't suggest it. He's MUCH older. He'll play you and have you eating out of his hands. He's probably only interested in one thing and I think we all know what that is! If he's knows how inexperienced you are he will take advantage of you and have you wrapped around his finger. that's just my take though...

Answer 3

well unless your a total s***k than u have nothing to worry about ^_^

hope it helps

Answer 4

You know, if you are close to your dad, why don't you talk to him about this. Your dad knows you better than anyone. Starting with an older guy when you are not experienced with men will really put you at a disadvantage as he has been around the world and back. I would think this would depend on your self esteem, your character, and if you are ready to date someone that is older. My advice would to just be friends and thats that. I would think that under the circumstances of the age difference and your lack of experience with guys this could turn into a disaster.

Answer 5

Well *most* guys that old expect sexual intimacy as standard part of relationships. However I have know a few guys with the mental matuarity and self control to actually respect someones boundries and enjoy what you are both comfotable with...but then again the number of guys that are the polar opposite is much much higher!

So I guess the only way to know is to talk to him and when you start to get intimate, talk about it, see if he's comfortable and respects you boundries, or does he try to overcome your boundries by pressuring you or does he just bolt. If the latter two, be thankful and never give in to keep a guy...you'll enjoy it A LOT less if don't wait till you are comfortable and ready (and married if thats your goal)