So theres this guy I am seeing?

Question

I have been talking to him alittle over two months now. We only see each other when our schedules match and its usually at night or the early morning. Last night I wentout with my friends for my best friends 21st birthday he promised me after the party he would come see me and even take me home I txted him and asked him to hurry or I am going to call my dad to come get me in 20 mins (remember I've been out of this party since 1:00am and been sitting at my friends waiting on him to come there) and at about 3:32am I get a txt saying "you gotta give me alittle more time then that baby, I want to see you really bad s**y, just wait for me you won't be disappointed hun" How much longer did he expect me to wait so I waited another 30 mins No answer, no response, nothing and it seems like the last week its been exactly the same but at the wee hours of the night I'll get a call with a "you'll never guess what happened story" I really like him I have came to really fall for him and it just makes me so mad when I sit there and wait and I ask myself all the time why do I sit here and wait!? I know better I know what I am setting myself up for but everytime I think that theres that little voice saying well just wait he'll be there or he'll answer soon. and I know its not another girl because I can tell hes always with his guys always hes with me and his guys or hes alone with his guys all I ever hear is guys around him so I know I am not getting played a fool when it comes to girls. but why do I continue to let him make me feel like an idiot waiting for him?! Not only that I told him I'm leaving well worst comes to worse everyone I called didn't answer to give me a ride home so I walked home all alone and I called him and left him 2 voicemails and txted him prolly 5xs bitching thats hes ****** for not coming to get me and leave me hanging and better yet leaving me walk home alone in the middle of the night drunker than **** and scared out of my wits. anyways whats ur advice ppl help me out.

Answer 1

I second that I was going to answer but that is too much to read!!! LOL

Answer 2

i would've say get a new bf but if i were u i would've ask him first

the reason behind all this, u do that ..

Answer 3

If you let a guy know or even think that they have you waiting for them like that then you will always be the one waiting. don't text him or call him! make him call you and when he does don't answer and wait a little while and call him back and say you were busy. if he is already acting like this then you need to be honest with yourself - do you really think you would even want to be with him the rest of your life? my hopes are that you don't. i have been in your shoes before and i had to learn the hard way! except he was with other girls and i knew it but he just had that way to make me keep hanging on... you can get over him if you really want to you just have to compare the good to the bad and decide what you want to do. but never ever let him think he is completely in control and runs your life! you will most definitely regret that in the long run with him and any other guy that comes about! just don't let him think you are desperate and needy.  good luck with it all.

Answer 4

Dont worry about them, I read the whole thing ( no I didnt ).  You must be brave. Stay in school. Dont do nothing stupid and uhhh youll be alright. :)

Answer 5

Dump him

Answer 6

Let him kno what's up and if he doesn't get with the program giv him the boot. You are probably holding on to him because you think you won't get another guy for a while. but come on, if he's this much problem what's the sense of havin him anyway. Just let him kno if he can't come pic you up, then say so. don't depend on him to do it, always hav plan b. and please for heavens sake, stop calling and texting him, that would def annoy me and im sure it annoys him. he probably dreads your calls or texts now. giv him some space, when he calls don't clamour to the phone, better yet, dont answer just text him back a monosyllable answer. back off a little. try doin stuff by urself. let him see you don't need him for nothing but company. (its hard to explain to you because this is my natural response to guys who dare to try such nonsense with me. I believe i am the best thing since oxygen and water and i don't stick around with guys like that). but if you really like him, tell him you do and then tell him your problem in a sit down serious conversation, be honest, the worst he could do his reject you and that really isn't so bad. seriously it isn't. girls put up with way too much c**p and spend way too much time mourning the lost of some guy who don't deserve them. If you truly like him do all you can to let him know whats up, don't let things simmer or become habit.

Answer 7

he isnt rreliable. dump him

Answer 8

wow that is a really long question

Answer 9

Ok, so I've been in this situation before.  For me, it was because I wanted to feel better about myself by being with someone.  Only, the guy was only calling late at night and not fitting me into his schedule because he really didn't want a commitment, just a booty call.  Believe me, if he wanted to fit you into his schedule he would, and he obviously isn't.  That tells you something.  Also, I think that as far as that text message goes, hes basically saying "wait up for me so we can hook up but otherwise i dont care"  You really should just blow him off and move on.  Hes treating you like c**p and im really sorry to say he honestly doesn't seem like he wants anything but you know what.   Its not easy, and it takes self control, especially when he calls all cute like "lets hang out".  Bottom line he is a looser, keep telling yourself you can do better because YOU CAN!!

Answer 10

Well you have to figure out these questions first: Is it all worth it at the end of the day being with him? The late nights, the walks home, potentially ending in your death? How many more games until its serious?

Answer 11

you need to decide how much you respect yourself an go from there.  tell him how you feel an if it soent get better it might be time to take a break for a while

Answer 12

Well it sounds like he is always finding something better to do than actually being with you when you need him. This is not the type of person you want to be with in the long-run. What if something happened that night you had to walk home by yourself? If something had, he could have prevented it. You don't deserve to be treated that way. You need someone better! Good luck, and I wish you the best!

Answer 13

wow well it really is ****** up wat he did anyways girl he doesn't deserve a girl seriously if he loves u  or even likes u he would've been there for u. If he says hes sorry and gives u good explanation u still have to wonder if he's telling u the truth!

Answer 14

Obviously a person of your taste and intelligence can write a paragraph that contains capital letters, has punctuation and is easier to follow.

If you start up with someone, there are only three possible outcomes:

You break up

You get married.

One of you dies.

Nobody died; you didn't marry anyone inappropriate.

You won. You are now free to break it off.

The possibility exists that he fell asleep before you finished your sentence.

Answer 15

you sound confused..

i didnt get your question..

you say you know him only a little...talk to him at rare occasions..

and you say you love him

and you talk as if hees your guy saying he doesnt fool you..and you talk with so much of previlege on him..

and you start abusing him..

WTH?

Answer 16

go find yourself a good guy

Answer 17

he seems like a player and just telling u what u want to hear. he doesnt seem to care about u at all.  

Answer 18

hes a douchebag

stop talking to him already

Answer 19

to long