Social anxiety advise?

Question

A few things about me.

okay, my name is cameron. I'm a very humble person. I don't judge others, no matter their religion, sexuality, or differences in general. And I'm very responsible. I have never done drugs or smoked... and never will. I hate lying to people because it makes me feel bad, and I don't talk smack about anyone behind their back. I love animals, the environment, and learning about cultures and languages. I'm just a very relaxed person, and its hard to get me angry. But I'm also quite the worker Bee. I love helping people. Athletics is my life, my dream is to go into law enforcement, and travel the world to help people someday. I laugh at almost anything and i have a good head on my shoulders.

So here is the catch.

All my life school has been such a struggle for me. I get really nervous around people. Its not so much as huge crowds... but small crowds. It could be 1 person or 50 people! I get extremely shy.

As the "loner" in school, Its hard for me to make friends because I'm so quiet.

I just don't know what to do. I try to calm myself down. I try to talk myself to become stronger and suck it up. I can't.

I can jump off air planes, go budgie jumping, ride extreme roller coasters, talk to 1000 of people at a seminar.

but I just can't do anything at school. Its like i shut down. I can't look anyone in the eye... and i feel so... helpless.

can anyone give advise or help me?

Answer 1

Well, In your description of yourself you sound like you wouldent have this problem... hmm.

well, the best advice I can give is tery to understand why you get so shy. Do you feel like people will judge you?

Or do you have self image problems.

I think what you should learn is changes dont happen over night.

What you should do is work o n making one friend. If you have an interest in some one take a chance and say something. Your friendship could very well grow! And one at a time you can conquer this problem of yours.

Also, try to think about how they are just like you. The way the feel and act might be different, but the way they can talk and have a form of confidence, so can you.

So stick with things you feel comfortable with, and realize many people are going through the same thing.

It was the same with me:)

sarah

Answer 2

Give up trying you're going to be like this for the rest life. The best thing that's worked for me is just stop caring whether you seem nervous or not and it'll help you be less nervous but don't worry about looking at people in the eye or try harder to be outgoing; it'll just make it worse.