Social anxiety?!?help!!?

Question

I am deathly afraid of new situations.

and i happen to have a lot,

i am just entering high school.

i am extremely uncoordinated.

and i despise playing sports and games and stuff in front of people i don't know very well.

i could cry right now just thinking about it,

i can't get meds.

i don't have health care at the moment.

i really hate this.

i have to take a speech class.

and in one class i have game day

every friday.

i get so freaked out.

i get dizzy.

and cry,

and scream.

it's not even like it's always better than i am worried about.

all the times i can ever remember;

it was not better than that.

worse.

i usually try to be cool.

and i suck.

and i laugh nervously at myself.

i am always on the edge of tears.

i hate it.

and i need help.

now.

PLEASE!?!?!!

i am going insane!!

Answer 1

This is an issue of you not having self confidence.  My advice is .............JUST RELAX............ keep telling yourself that nothing is going to bite you.  Unless you feel comfortable participating in something, don't do it.  Find a friend who is a nice girl, maybe a girl with glasses, not one of those S****y high school girls who are showing their cleavage even though it's not even developed yet.  Keyword here is ..........JUST RELAX............ keep telling yourself that everything is going to be okay.  Like I said, find a friend who is somewhat a nerdy studius type of person, slowly, you will gain that confidence to face the word.  Don't even think about boyfriends or even boys and all that stuff just yet.. . it'll come naturally.  Keep telling yourself that whatever it is, it's going to be okay.  Good luck.

Answer 2

Worst thing to do: Medication. --Because of my anxiety my doctor gave me Paxil. I nearly killed myself because of that.

Best thing to do: Hobbies. --d**n right, hobbies. You do art? Sing? Anything you can do alone? I do art. It feels nice. Art helped me gain self confidence. And that's ALL you need, sweetie.

USE YOUR HEAD!! The power will come to you...

xoxo Kokoa.

Answer 3

Hey, you've got a friend in me at least! While I'm here don't be afraid. You're a good person, just as good as all those "cool" guys. There's no problem unless you make it a problem, and you're not going to are you? I hope not!

I too am afraid sometimes. I feel you. I get very nervous in front of cass, or just plain bumping into those "cool" guys, poised, sharp tongue in mouth, ready to destroy you? Well, no. Think about it this way: what if they saw the world the way you did? They would be unsure of themselves, and fall prey to their own dire self-predictions. Instead, be positive! Mya I suggest a Usain Bolt analogy? So you're racing with Usain, and you're so in awe of his amazingness that while he sprints off ahead you're just crouched on the blocks, staring. Well, life is a race certainly many many times longer than the 100 m dash, and ol' Bolt is going to have to take a break sometime. So you can catch up. There's no penalty for losing or not catching up--the best reward in fact is not beating Mr. Bolt but learning that you tried hard and did soemthing. The glass is not half-empty; if it were everything would be half-empty too! Atoms are mostly empty space, you know!

      Focus on the upside. Life really is what you make of it--and reality, like the Matrix can be bent, even broken. You never lose anything by trying. The only time you lose out is when you don't try, when you let that inertia that's weighing your hand and throat down take over. Our human experience, unlike that of a, say, toad's, is highly subjective. This is good and this is bad. But mostly good. It means you can see the world the way you want to, and the world really is what you want to see in it. Take the same situation: in a pessimist's eyes it is utter social failure--in an optimist's eyes it is success, not because it suceeded per se but because they at least tried and did something with their abilities.

Answer 4

It's nice to know someone is going through what I am,

So far I have found 3 therapies that work very well, cognitive therapy, psychotherapies and group therapy.

No doctors would give me medicine so I had to go to a psychiatrist  

Answer 5

You really should go see a counselor if your quality of life is suffering. Fortunately, there isn't the same stigma attached to seeking help as there used to be. If you are thinking that you might require medication of some sort, a psychiatrist (rather than your family doctor) would be best but you should still see your physician first to see if maybe you have a hormonal imbalance (e.g. thyroid problem) that could be causing problems. Things are quite treatable now and you shouldn't hesitate to get help sooner than later. Trained medical professionals can give you much better answers than any of us here can.

Good luck :)