Social phobia ?????????????????????

Question

Ok,so here is my story...

I've been in a long rush trough my life ,it all begun at the age of 14 when i had severe depression treated with antidepressants.I was very very anxious&stressed&co. later i became socialy isolated and very shy, i think it's because my dopamine was depleted in that strong depression (full 3 months of panic attacks + more)

I had some other problems that induced my social phobia ,I had severe acne & scars wich made me impossible to talk/look/carry a conversation with people,i was extremly stressed 2 years like passing out every day with my mouth dry.

However my acne was treated and i have no longer scars,the fact is that all my past friends are gone and I became isolated,there is one major problem in all this bullshit.

THE PROBLEM IS THAT I HAVE EXTREME ANXIETY AT MEETINGS,after I meet someone that i know i can carry a conversation but I just cant meet that person so i just keep runing from them ,i can't look in their eyes i preffer ignoring my old friends...what's wrong with me ? i find it impossible to meet someone just like say ''HI,HOW ARE YOU'' im always feeling heartbeat and my blood running like a train when I see the person girl or boy.But if i can do a good salute everything goes well,it's just i fear to met them,what the heck is this ????

anyway it's very strange that im not anxious with unknown persons,just with girls when it comes to meet them.But i'm terrified of my old friends,maybe it's linked to my past or something?And even if I meet a new person and after some weeks I meet him again i'm terrified of the meeting (shaking hands,saying hello,etc) but as I told..im afraid of meetings.

someone experienced this ? is it normal ?

Answer 1

yes i know what you mean. not anxious in meeting strangers but the friends you've known before or for so long became very hard for you to talk, is that it? i can also carry a conversation but there's just something, right? there's just something inside us that keeps us from getting awkward and it makes us ignore these people. im the same as you i also can't talk to my old friends and i also think that it's because of something that happened before i experience all this. i think im not facing something.

you know why you're not anxious in meeting people? cuz probably they don't know anything about you and you can act someone or act normal because they don't you. get what i mean? im like that but not to the point where i can't shake my hands, but saying hello? yes it makes me awkward. its not normal. if you're not like that before then something definitely triggered that action of your's and that's for you to know and find out.  

Answer 2

Hi,

If you feel a panic attack or feelings of anxiety creeping up on you then try this word repetition technique that I learned that helps me to quickly 'snap out' of my panic attacks:

I simply repeat the words 'cream cake' over and over in my head as quickly as I can without stopping.    You could use any word or words you like really but that's what I chose (because I like cream cakes).  It apparently works because it doesn't give your brain time to process the panicky thoughts and so helps you to relax again.  Seems strange I know ... but it works for me!

There's also a free ebook that I found really useful called 'Get Rid of Panic and Anxiety for Good'. If you want to take a look you can find it at: http://curepanicattacks.premiergold.info...    Even though I got it for free it has helped me absolutely loads!

Answer 3

If you feel this with in your self, I'd say that the vibes are showing on the outside and people feed off that.. So if you don't want to feel this way, then try your hardest to to assoicate yourself, its hard, but thats the only way your going to get some friends.. and the old friends, they must not of been all that good of friends or they'd still be around right?? best of luck and don't give up!

Answer 4

Hi there, i know exactly how u feel, i suffer from exactly the same thing, (Social Anxiety Disorder) my face goes bright red everytime i see sumone i havnt seen in a while.. ive just started seeing a psychologist and taking antidepressants perscribed by my doctor and so far so good, heres a tip she taught me, time how many breaths you do in 30secs if its more than 5 you breathe to fast and need to retrain your breathing by breathing in and counting 2,3 and out 2,3  practising 3 times a day for 5mins realy helps and wearing a watch when timing it. Eventually you will just need to touch your watch in a meeting and ur breathing will slow and anxiety will ease. I hope this helps you, good luck feel free to email me if u need to talk to someone who knows how u feel..

Answer 5

Its social anxiety disorder.

Its a horrible thing, and you described basically everything I've been through. Like old friends, girls, or meeting someone again 2-3 weeks later. Yeah its all from the social anxiety disorder, and normal if you have the disorder.

I used to be fine till 16 and then went through a very bad 19 month depression. When I became normal things were hard. Its when I became manic and was doing mad drugs, I tried a pain killer which has been used to treat social anxiety disorder called tramadol.

d**n the difference was day and night. I went from being the quite kid in the class to the coolest guy around... atleast for that month i was messing with that drug. When I went back to normal, the social anxiety returned, but not in full force.

Go see a doctor, he will prescribe you real social anixety medicine.

Answer 6

i have not experienced this before but it probably has something to do with your past. you could try online chat so then you could make friends without having to shake hands or anything. once you make friends, they could help you get over this phobia and you can lead a happier life. good luck :)