Social problems...is this normal...help...advise appreciated.?

Question

I'm in 8th grade and I have practically no friends. I'm not new at my school or anything, but I just don't like talking/socializing with my peers at school. I just kind of keep to myself most of the time, but I'm nice to people. The thing is, which is what I think is abnormal, I don't even want or try to make friends at school. For lunch, I usually hide in the bathroom or the library because I don't like being seen eating alone. (I don't mind eating alone, just the being seen part.) Please don't tell me to see a guidance counselor to help with my social issues, because I'm positive there's nothing wrong with my social mentality. For instance, I make friends perfectly fine when I go to camps in the summer, I just don't like the people in my school. My conclusion is that I'm probably much more intellectually advanced than the majority of my peers...but I'm not sure. Like the camps I go to, they're all academic camps that [ie] require you to take SATs to get in. Am I normal? Please help. All answers greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Not to sound harsh but Yes!

When you're hiding in the bathroom when its lunch time. I mean that's a little more than being anti-social. You should really seek out some help.  

Answer 2

I think you're normal. I get what you mean. I always feel like I'm surrounded by idiots at school. Last year when I was in 9th grade, I felt like even the seniors were stupid. I don't have the best grades (I've actually failed a couple of classes) but I just feel like I'm somehow smarter than my peers for some reason. I'm interested in things that they might find "nerdy" and I speak more properly than they do.

Answer 3

Yes, you are normal. Your problem of not relating to other people might be related to the fact that you aren't interested in the superficial things they are interested. But, remember, not everybody is a genius and you would be surprised, you can be friends with people of a lesser intellect than yours. You might be able to relate to them on other levels. Some people might be able to impress you with knowledge that you never came across or with honesty. You never know. Toughen up, kid!!  Also, stop hiding in the restrooms. You will never make any friends if you don't put yourself out. Go there, and just sit next to somebody you know or to somebody new. Smile and look people in the eyes. Talk to them! Dress in such a manner that you feel confident. You can so it! Don't isolate yourself! It is proven that active participation to the social life improves the functioning of the brain! So do it to improve your CNS!!!

Answer 4

i have a guess. and it is most likely true. here is my hypothesis: you are a nerd/geek (whichever isn't as offensive). i am, and i used to think i was not normal at my lack of ability to make friends. at camps, everyone there is there to actually do the common tasks. but at school, the peer students don't really focus on school, because they think its "pointless". (the idiocy. if it wasn't for school they wouldn't be friends.) so here is my advice for you: find a group of "smarter people", who you know actually try in school. they are the ones who don't like those around, and when doing extracurricular activities, actually do the common task.

Answer 5

oh no! there's nothing wrong with you. I'm just like you, very anti-social. i just prefer to be alone. i also have tons of friends, cuz I'm a friend magnet! but I'm only my total and complete self  with my 2 bffs. I'm very smart, too. college SATS in 6th grade! its okay 2 b alone, but if u really want friends then just talk 2 people. but its okay! perfectly fine!!  

Answer 6

No. There is nothing wrong with you.

The way you behave is due to your temperament & personality. I suspect you have a Melancholy temperament. A "Melancholy" has the tendency to be reserved and withdrawn from people.

There are 4 types of temperament which are Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric and Phlegmatic.

Please check out the website below to understand the Melancholy temperament. Please click on the right side under the "Definitions" to know other types of temperament and to find out which one are you.

http://www.oneishy.com/personality/melan...

But after understanding your own temperament, you might need to change & improve yourself for your own good.

It's not good to be reserved or withdrawn from people too often.

Answer 7

a person can never have too many friends.  Find out who the 'gifted' kids are in your class and seek them out.  you might find that there are kids that are just as smart as you; or smarter!

besides, just because you are smart doesn't make you a better person.  Some people might not have had the opportunities you have had to excel, perhaps you could be a mentor and help someone catch up.

Answer 8

Hey, i used to have ur prob, when i was in the 6th grade, i was EXACCTLY like you, KNOWING that i'm smarter than my peers, I knew many ppl there but it seemed like they are vage, unimportant to me to make friends, i snapped out of this attitude by giving ppl some room, i still know that i'm above the thinking of my peers, i've alot of older friends who tell me that, i'm 15 and have friends of 17+ years till 23 yrs, it's ok, u could get older friends that u may feel comfortable with!!

I feel you, it's hard, it's like being invisible but you wanting that!!

so, my advise is: Accept urself as being smarter than ppl, then forget that you even know that u're smarter, go talk to someone who u've seen around the school for a long time!!

I know that there's always a friend for someone, even though they dont last!!