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Question #1 :

I'm fourteen, 119 pounds,5 feet tall, and I ate and excercised really well for about 2 months, and i felt really happy and stuff ( felt healty) then my father came home ( parents devorced) so we stayed in hotels for 2 weeks, so we ate out almost every day. I tried to eat healthy ( like a grilled chicken ceaser salad, or ranch wrap,) but other times it was chinese or A n' W. I hate eating bad foods because I'm actually SCARED of getting fat, and after i eat fast foods or foods with lots of calories/fat I feel sick, ( and want to actually throw up, but i NEVER do) I gained weight ( I can tell, ) because my stomach isnt flat and my thighs are very big and gross. Am I healthy anyways? I got good excercise during the two weeks, like, 15 hours walking wile shopping, 2 hours walking at theme park,1.5 hours swimming hard laps, 30 mins. just swimming for fun.

Im scared that i'm going to become anorexic/ bulimic. I'm already in the mindset. I sometimes feel like purging or not eating because my stomach is thick and my thighs fat. My lifes been difficult ( not going to write it all here) but I'm scared of what i might do. I dont want to see a theripist.. but just some reassurance.. I dunno.

I wish i could look like this, :

http://www.elanso.com/U/D/Dc3/c3d97eb8645ce942a7c3b90a577f7f5d/128509108306252645.jpg

But i actually look like this :

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/139/399370351_208e609622.jpg?v=0

exept Paler, and lumpier.

Answer 1

Firstly I would avoid labels like anorexic, at least at the moment, but if you do feel you have a problem I would not recommend shying away from it.

You need to switch the focus of your life.  Keeping a healthy weight should be an aside from all the other things in a full life, not the centre of it.

As you are 14 I'm guessing you're at school and its the summer break for you. See how things get when you go back to school, you're seeing your friends more, you have work to do etc, hopefully your weight will be put more to the back of your mind, where it should be.  Hope this helps x

Answer 2

I am quite certain that you are not unhealthy as long as the numbers are correct up there.

As far as your mentality. I'd suggest rechanneling it. If I were you I'd consider (seriously, this is not dipstick advice but it really is worth considering) getting into figure competitions. If you're really into fitness and you're pretty naturally anal about accuracy and consistency, they're some of the most beautiful women on the d**n planet and it's a little known fact that if you can do figure, you can have the knowledge of how to alter electrolytes and activity levels to look like whatever you want pretty much at will with 10 weeks to prepare. I mean, literally, it's totally up to you what you look like except your face and height. And the nice thing is, you can eat like, a LOT of food if you so desire with a proper level of exercise. Once it really becomes about the look and you know for a fact how it all works and that you can eat literally 2500 calories a day and still look better than anyone in the whole d**n state on a particular day if you come in first place overall at one of these competitions.... You stop being in danger of malnourishment. Plus, you look so hot even jerks like me will be interested ;) - if you do it correctly. I'm sure people around you do it, you're young so by the time you're my age you could be really really good.

by the way someone answered before me. Ignore him. It shouldn't be the center of your life just hope that it goes to a backseat role? He clearly has never dealt with someone in your situation - that kind of talk is irresponsible if he has. That's about as helpful as someone saying "but you look good to me! I don't like stick figure women....!" - totally missing the point and mentality. Thanks for nothing. If anything answers like that probably just annoy you and discourage seeking good productive advice. You don't need some weak zen philosophy for a dummie you need a good way to channel your "problem" so that it can eventually become a great advantage for you, which it totally can (even if my advice is no good for you as far as figure competitions).

People who try to say you shouldn't feel a certain way mean well but they don't have any idea - they try to say, but you're good looking (or a female, I wish I looked so goood...) but they don't understand that it's NOTHING to do with their opinion about you - actually they're arrogant in assuming this but they don't know. This is about you and if they keep repeating it please gently explain what I just did to them yourself - you appreciate their concern and their complement and their intentions, but your discomfort wasn't caused by you thinking you didn't look good to THEM. So what they think opinion wise is totally irrelevant. Every d**n insecure shallow person running around telling you you should feel fine when you don't emotionally, and even a very strong personality will begin to just feel like they're wierd and get hopeless and withdrawn. If you can ignore them, if they repeat you got to stop them. There are a lot of us out there who get it and are willing to be helpful.