Some of my friends are getting married...

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for about 7/8 years and I'm worried that we wont ever get married.. We have friends who are starting to get married and I really want a ring on my finger too... Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Did you two ever discuss marriage?  If not, then you really should.  I know 8 years is a long time, but if the issue was never discussed then you both may not be on the same page and neither of you know it.

Although it's good to discuss this, I wouldn't however suggest you push him to marry because that may actually just drive him off.

Answer 2

Wow.  That is a long time to be with someone and not even be engaged.  You may be with someone who doesn't want to get married.  Just ask your boyfriend if you are ever going to get married and if he doesn't seem like he ever wants to get married then I would move on because you deserve better.

Answer 3

Well, you are in a quandry. I sure wouldn't have waited longer than two to three years of serious dating, usually a couple talks marriage by then.

If he doesn't want marriage - either to you or anyone else - and you do, then the two of you aren't a match.

Answer 4

7 or 8 years? Girl, it is time to have a talk with him! If you dont share the same goals of marriage, cut your losses now. Better late than never. Or you may find out that he is ready to marry! You really should address this with him.

Answer 5

I Have A Cousin Who Has Been With His Girlfriend More Than 12 Years, They Have 2 Kids & He Has Never Suggested Marriage.

Then At My Sisters Wedding She Caught The Bouquet & The MC Asked Why He Hasn't Proposed Yet & He Looked So Uncomfortable Because It Was Being Forced On Him.

Just Give Him Time.

If You Are Really Hanging Out For Him To Suggest It, Maybe You Should Make Some Subtle Hints. If A Friend Tells You About Her Wedding Plans, Tell Him. Say "Oh I Love That Idea. We Should Do Something Like That For When We Decide To Get Married"..

That Way It's Not Being Forced On Him, But In A Way It's Giving Him A Bit Of A Push.

Good Luck.

=)

Answer 6

you cant force it!  Now that others are, it may put the idea in his head.

Have to two talked about it?  

Answer 7

Have you two ever spoken about marriage?  You have said what you feel, but what, if anything, has been spoken?

If nothing, then bring up the conversation to him.  Chances are you will make him run away...but then, you will know how, unfortunately, he truly feels about it.

Answer 8

You need to have an honest, very real conversation with him.  If it has been that long, you need to have a real idea of where it is going.  Not necessarily to marriage now, but at least and idea that you are on the same page for the future.  Sit down and let him know what you want for the future and how you feel.  Ask him how he feels.  Make sure that you are still headed in the same direction.  I don't think you need a proposal right now, wait until you are both ready, but you do need to know if you are wasting your time.

Answer 9

It'll happen you might have to wait a while but if your recognizing this he probably is too.