Some of my friends think that my best friend is bossing me around. What should I do?

Question

Some of my friends think that best friend (well one of them, I have a few) is bossing me around. I've noticed she controls me too. I stood up to her once and I said, "I'm not a dog." Two of my friends were glad I stood up to her. She still says, "Come on Steph," when the bell is about to ring for a class or something like that. I know she has a little sister so she's used to taking care of people so that could be why she does this. She's a nice girl and we have a good friendship, so how can I solve this problem and not let this effect our friendship?

Answer 1

Mimic her.

Answer 2

Let her know that you're your own person. Like if she tells you that you two are going to play a certain game without giving you a choice, simply say "No thanks. I'd rather play this." I used to have a friend exactly like this, and I always gave in to her. I wish now that I would have stood up to her.  She made me get the same haircut as her, and made me tell my mom that I wanted it like that. ugh. Just tell her that you can make your own decisions. It might hurt her feelings, but if she's a true friend she'll understand.  

Answer 3

Maybe say something like - I know you care alot about me and I care about you but I don't like it when you boss me around because it makes me upset (and.or any other reasons)

Hope this helps

Answer 4

if shes tellin you to do something you dont mind doin then who cares. but if she tells you to do something you don't wanna do then jsut say no. Dont' be rude about it. just be like naa i don't feel like it, or no thats ok. Just be polite but don't let her walk all over you.

Answer 5

just say "dude i can take care of myself"

of course she's a good friend, she is just a little too controlling

tell her this, and really mean it

maybe she'll back off. good luck :]