Some one tell me why i cant help myself?

Question

i have been suffering from depression and anxiety for years. I have been avoiding getting help because i get paranoid about the consequences. Im seeing a therapist and just started some antidepressents. about 2 hours ago i felt like i was haveing a panic attack, except i wasnt panicking because i have felt like that dozens of times before. I was on my way to the ER but i got so paranoid of what was goin to happen i couldnt go. every time i feel like i cant take it anymore and try to get help, i seen to talk myself out of really getting the serious help i sometimes need. Can someone tell me what would happen if i went to the ER and told them that i was having nervousness and paranoi, depression. I know the dead give away of serious problems is suicidal thoughts. I have had those thoughts plenty of times but i know ill never do it. Plus i know if i tell a doctor or therapist i am having those kinds of thoughts theyll prob put me in a padded room or something. i need some advice. thank you

Answer 1

Hey. I think you're doing very well by trying to get help. Firstly, stop thinking that someone is going to put you in a 'padded room'. You have made a wise step by realising that you need a bit of help. We are all human and we all need help in different areas.

I would say to yourself every morning "that things are going to be okay, I'm going to see the therapist or doctor, whom ever it may be". Don't let the fear take over, just go, make up your mind and see the therapist/doctor, because they are there to help you. They won't think of you badly, they want to help you get back on track and stop feeling badly about yourself.

Maybe also, from experience, I would try to list 5 good things in my life right now, do this every morning, try to think of good things about yourself, make yourself say them every morning. May God be with you, I believe you can do it.

Answer 2

You are scared of the consequences of being sent to an institution where you can be monitored closely.  You value your freedom just as much as we all do but, in order to address your fears you may need to come to a compromise and seek help for your needs.  Have you considered therapy over the telephone? Can you call a free hotline and speak with a counselor?  Your desire to seek help on Y/A already shows you are willing to ask for help.  Seek out multiple avenues of assistance; telephone hotlines, social services, internet forums, friends, family, college or university psychology departments.  Do not hold your problems within. There are sources for you to access and use.  Best of wishes to you!

Answer 3

it sounds to me like you are being really hard on yourself.

Do you trust your therapist?  Do you feel safe talking to her/him?

I don't know if anyone could tell you for sure what would happen if you went to the ER except someone who was qualified (ie. a doctor in the ER), but the truth is, if you are having dangerous thoughts you really just need to go and accept that whatever happens will be what really needs to happen.

You know, sometimes you just have to trust fate and know that what is meant to be will be.

Answer 4

Getting put in a mental hospital isn't the end of the world. They can help you adjust to medication before you have to go back and face the real world. They will also have therapists you can talk to while you are there. Also, if you have a bad side effect from a medication, they will be able to address the problem quickly. They will be more likely to give you tranquilizers at the hospital to help you cope with the anxiety. If you are having suicidal thoughts, you really do need to go to the emergency room and tell them. They will have someone sit with you (babysitter)  until they can get you into a psychiatric hospital.

  As for telling your doctor that you are having those thoughts, it is not a bad thing. They will not automatically send you to the hospital. They will ask you if you have ways to combat that feeling, like getting together with a friend or keeping someone close to you to help until the feeling passes. They will also make you sign a form/contract that you will not kill yourself and if you feel you can not control it, you will go to a hospital. (The form basically removes them from being liable if you do kill yourself) The doctors need to know about  these feelings because it could be an indicator of what medication they need to adjust. If it is getting worse, they need to know that too because sometimes antidepressant/ anti-anxiety medications will do the opposite of what they are suppose to do. (Everyone has a different body chemistry and that is why they have different medications.. they work differently for various people)

Fear of the unknown is a problem for lots of people. I think the reason you are unable to go is because you have never experienced it before and are afraid of what they will do. They will not keep you if you are not suicidal, but if you are... you need to tell them that. I have actually told them I was when I wasn't just to be admitted to the hospital because I couldn't handle feeling so anxious and I knew if I let it go much longer I would be suicidal. Once in the mental hospital they can give you medications to help with that very quickly.

Answer 5

Therapists and doctors know the difference between suicidal thoughts and having a plan with intent to put the plan into action.  In other words, talking about your thoughts to a therapist or even the ER is not going to land you in a padded cell unless you intend to kill yourself.  Therapy is a place where you can talk about those things without fear of reprisals.  As for the ER, they might ask you to do a voluntary commitment if you are in real bad shape, or they might give you medication for anxiety and suggest that you see your therapist and/or doctor more frequently.  It depends on what shape you are in.

Answer 6

So what you are saying is you want help for how you are feeling, but don't want to actually undertake the help if you don't like what is involved?

The best thing you can do at this stage is talk to a doctor or mental health professional.  Talking about your suicidal thoughts and depression will allow you to start dealing with it.

I don't think they are going to lock you up in a padded room unless you actually try and commit suicide.

You do need to talk to someone. Sooner rather than later.

Answer 7

just adjust for what your self seeking of,and observe other humans to help how can you accommodate your locks within your self.

Answer 8

I think you shouldn't back out of getting help; they arn't going to do anything against your will they can't.  they will just suggest what they think is best for you so you don't have to live with these issues anymore.

That and the padded room straight jacket thing is more in old school horror movies and not so much reality.

Just know your rights they can't do certain things to you. I suggest you go into the ER as calm and collected as you can

Cheer up :)

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time lately. Depression and anxiety are a far more common problem than you might think! Lots of people encounter it at some point in their lives. The doctors wouldn't lock you away or anything, but they would help you get back on your feet and make your life better.

Please please do talk to someone about this-whether it's an ER doctor, your therapist, a friend, whomever. No one can truly help unless you're willing to confide in them. Best of luck :D

Answer 10

The ER will treat you good.  If you don't have illegal drugs in your system that help you find a referral center.  If you do have they will hold you until you are referred.  They will not prescribe anything, so the point is to get you to a psychiatrist so that you can be properly medicated.  Depending on their professional opinion will decide on how soon the doctors find you ready for release.  The medicine has to get in your system.  It is a good thing to do to start taking care of yourself.  If you check yourself in a vollentary(msp?) place you can check yourself out.  You can find those numbers listed under mental health resources.  Look up DBSA on the computer.