Some people enjoy being alone and dislike people to interfere with his/her matter?

Question

i have a friend,well a close one. she is the first whom i have ever met that prefer to be alone and so not enjoy people mind her business. the way she talk sometimes is kind of straightforward =) and she can be as cool as she want or as kind as she can. im trying to understand more about her,but since she don't like people to step foot on her matter, it's kind of hard to get to know her more. can anyone help me to solve this problem? some advices,please. =) and perhaps if anyone of you posses the same characteristic, please state it,ya. thanks =)

Answer 1

I prefer to be alone.  I enjoy listening to other people rather than talking.  I also like it when people ask what I am interested in.  I would also respond better to an invitation to go out if the other person gave me about 3 days notice.  

Answer 2

There is nothing the matter with her.  She is an introvert.  Introverts are private people who gain the energy from solitude.  Too much interaction with other people can be tiring for them and they communicate better in writing. She may enjoying spending some time together with you engaged in an activity where the focus is not so much on talking.  I know that's the case with me.  A movie, an art exhibit, or bicycling with someone, are relaxed ways for someone to get to know me better.  As long as it's not an all day thing, and I can leave to have some down time, I'm fine.  Maybe this will work with your friend. She will open up eventally, be patient.  Remember: being an introvert is not shyness, and there is nothing wrong or the matter with it.  It is a temperament.  Introverts do not dislike people, it's just that too much people stimulation is tiring.  They do not gain energy from social interaction like extroverts do.

Answer 3

yes I'm like your friend, you will get closer to her if you don't push it. believe me she will be drawn to you if you speak with intelligence, and a sensitivity to her needs.

Answer 4

You don't have to specifically ask her about stuff like what she's thinking or if she needs help, but instead you could just try to hang out with her more doing stuff that you think might interest her, she may eventually open up about stuff. There isn't a definitive answer to what you are asking because there are just some people that prefer their own company to others. Best of luck with it =]

Answer 5

I am exactly the same. My space is mine. I need it badly & if anyone interferes with it I can be not very nice. I need it bad as food.

Other times, I enjoy people very, very much unless I find them draining me. I like to help them if I can.

Give her the space she needs. She isn't being "off" with you. Be there for her (if you want to cos it works both ways) if she wants/needs you.

Best wishes. UK