Someone please comfort me : / i neeed it?

Question

i have 3 sisters who i have always been close to but one of the i have been super close to like we did everything together growing up and we still hangout together too and we have some of the same friends so we all hangout but lately i feel like shes been ditching and lying to me..yeah she lies to me and i feel so ... i dont how to describe it but i love her so much obviously shes my blood and were a lot a like and shes an awesome person when were getting along.but i also feel like kinda self consious around her.. growing up i was always the pretty one and all of a sudden she got the looks and people tell me that shes prettier than me...yeah f**ked up right. i mean its the truth but that makes my self esteem even lower just hearing it..i know she cares about me cause she wrote me a 10 page letter talking about our life and family and how she loves me..but then why would she do those things to me?? like ditching me and lying and going behind my back...i have a problem of treating people how they treat me which is kinda immature i know but i cant help it.. i feel like i cant be nice to someone whose not nice to me and when she does something i dont like i ignore her and act like i dont care about her..its kinda awkard i think..is all families like this or is it just us?? idk why i am the way i am..but i dont know what i did wrong for her to act like that...i think im too nice too her sometimes too..idk what to do anymore and i really need advice..please help me out..10 pts the best answer : /

Answer 1

It could be your sister dose not realize wha she is doing and how she treats you.  I think as we grow older our views and aour feelings change. Even though you may not do alot together any more she is still you sister and this is a bond that know one can break, even though you may go your seperate ways always stay in touch with her.     J.

Answer 2

She is your sister, your closes friend.  Talk to her and see if anything is bothering her.  Tell her that you have noticed a change in her and you want to make sure she is OK or if she has a problem.

She wrote you a 10 page letter, why do you think she wrote it.  Something is going on in her life that you do not know about so don't shun her, let her know that you are there for her.

Quit feeling sorry for yourself and quit ignoring her and quit acting like you don't care and ask yourself why your sister seems different to you.  Try to just talk with her and see if she will open up to you.

From your question I get the feeling something is not going right with your sister now.  Try to find out what it is so that you might help her.

She would not all of a sudden be ditching you or lying and going behind you back if something was not wrong.  If she won't tell you, maybe a friend will tell you.

Good luck!  

Answer 3

it is not just you! me and my sister do that all the time! dint sweat it! just tell ur sister she is rly upsetting u! she will feel bad a apologize! it always works for me!  

Answer 4

Well,  u should probably calm down 4 the moment cause u sound really freaked out... Ur sister might just feel too tired of u or tired of living in your shadow like both of you girls have been doing everything together but sometimes it's better to leave her do somethings without ur help or anything cause you always had an advantage over her which was being prettier than her. Don't really mind about ur prettiness just care about what u think of yourself. About ur sister just give her some time cause anybody usually loves to stay alone or maybe in the dark to calm down

Answer 5

i think that it many ways i can probably be placed in the shoes of your sister .. growing up my sister was always the perfect one, the angel, the pretty one.. she had everything. but as i grew up, i realized that i had something to offer to the world too, and as i matured, i grew into my features and became pretty attractive aswell. i dont think that your sister intentionally rubs it in your face, or trys to act better.. maybe shes just trying to make up for the time SHE felt like the ugly duckling. as for the people around.. thats soo silly.

she obviously loves you alot.. so thats clearly not an issue. maybe you feel like shes ditching you because you feel a lack of connectin.. when was the last time you guys had a huge heart to heart ? i think that might help alot.. a conversation where you lay everything out on the table, everything you just wrote . and not only that, but talk about anything else that might be bothering her. for all you know, she might have something else going on thats holding her down but hasnt told anyone yet .. maybe the awkward feelings and weirdness your getting from her is your sisterly instincts reacting ? just an idea.

the only thing you can do is talk to her and ask why shes done the things shes done. everything happens for a reaosn, but most importantly, eveyrthing has a story behind it.

Answer 6

I think it's time for a sister hug and let her know you love her. This is natural between sisters and my favorite one past at only 47 and I sure wish everyday I could just have that moment with her again. You sound like myself and no matter what my sister done,or how mad I got at her, I would just walk up unexpectedly and say you know I love you and your my favorite sister and give her a hug and smile. She thought I was weird but knew no matter what our friendship was never going away for anyone. It breaks the barrial of how your feeling and makes you feel even more better about yourself. Try it!