Someone please give me some GOOD ADVICE!!!!?

Question

I have been married to my husband for four years and have been together for 7. We have 3 wonderful children together. Within the past few months I have been "seeing" someone else. I really feel that I have very strong feelings for this person. He is so sweet to me and always telling me how pretty he thinks I am and always asks me how my day has been and just little stuff like that. My husband NEVER tells me things like that and is always an a*****e to me and everyone else (friends, family) sees it too! I don't know what to do. I can't really divorce because we built a house on MY families land, but he pays the mortgage. Plus theres my children too!

My husband does not "turn me on" at all. But this other guy does (ALOT) He is a pretty good bit older than me, and maybe thats why....any advice?

Answer 1

He turns you on because he is something new in your life, same thing happens to a kid when he gets a new toy but after some days/months that attraction may evaporate, then will you look for another guy. Try to workout your marriage.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you and your husnand are just stuck in a big rut. You should either try marriage counseling, OR get a divorce. Those are your only two options here. Cheating will only make things worse, and if he finds out and wants a divorce than he will most likely get the kids and the house because you are the one in the wrong. So, if you truely want to be with this other guy....than get a divorce. The home situation might be a little complicated, but you will figure it out. Your kids will be upset too, but that is just something you will have to chose!  

Answer 3

Its simple you have 2 choices either leave your husband or give up this guy.

You are not thinking about your children, you are gambling with their happiness, these things always have a way of coming out.

Answer 4

I agree with everyone else.

Answer 5

I;m one of those kids thats parents got divorced because one of my parents was unfaithful. I honestly feel like if you cannot find anyway to change or better your relationship you have with your husband you need to divorce him the longer the relationship with this other person goes the worse the out come. I know that you have a lot of things together (home, kids, etc) but part of a divorce is splitting up your assets.