Someone who knows how to get total custody of a child in illinois?

Question

i am single mother and i have my kids whit me, but their father it is giving me troubles. He is abusive and controlling, i don't have family

here or at least an effective support system and i have been trying to be civilized whit him for the last three years so he can see the kids and i have some help. somehow he does not help much and it has been a h**l of life even when we don't live together, he has hit me in front of the kids, he calls me names and says that i am not a good mother, he puts me down every time he can and expect me to be respectful and behave like if what he says did no hurt. The thing it's that i get to the limit and i want to stop this as soon as possible. Mi girl has been saying in the day care that her daddy hits her mom and "she cries like a baby". ai know this can be very complicated, but i need to have an idea. I want to disappear whit my kids but i don't have too much money, if he does not help at all and is going to keep damaging my life and my Kidd's i rather to have him as far as possible and i want to have total custody of my kids, we never married, but my kids have his last name.

Any answer its appreciated and thanks for your help.

Answer 1

in britain mother usually get custody of the kids unless she is incapable of looking after children or a drug addict are you any of these things then the answer is yes you will have full custody of your children make sure you write down all the man has done to you that way he only gets supervised visitation rights

Answer 2

These link may help: http://www.illinoislegalaid.org/index.cf...

"The court shall determine custody in accordance with the best interest of the child. The court shall consider all relevant factors including the following guidelines:

1. The wishes of the child's parent or parents as to custody of the child;

2. The wishes of the child as to custody;

3. The interaction and interrelationship of the child with his parent or parents, his siblings and any other person who may significantly affect the child's best interest;

4. The child's adjustment to his home, school and community;

5. The mental and physical health of all individuals involved;

6. The physical violence or threat of physical violence by the child's potential custodian, whether directed against the child or directed against another person;

7. The occurrence of ongoing abuse as defined in Section 103 of the Illinois Domestic Violence Act of 1986, whether directed against the child or directed against another person; and

8. The willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing relationship between the other parent and the child.

The court doesn't consider conduct of a present or proposed custodian that does not affect the relationship to the child."

http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/illin...

And here is a link for Chicago Child Custody Lawyers:

http://www.avvo.com/child-custody-lawyer...

Answer 3

most the time the child gets put with the mother.

escpecially if he is abusive and the kids can vouch for it!

or the next time he hits you call the cops and get a statement to prove it.

if you are too scared to do it dont be.. he cant controll you if you dont let him and if he knows your serious he will be scared to get in trouble.

but you have to stick to it!!!!

if you have family in another state i would recommend staying with them and just save money and put anything extra away to get there if you need to.

and take it to court.

i know its a big mess but in the end it will be worth it.

you and your childrens safety are most important!!!!

my sister went through the same thing.

she saved all her money and kept it a secret and then road the grayhound bus with her 3 kids and left most of her belongings in california and came to stay with my family in utah.

its possible you just have to not give into this guy!

and another thing is the guy my sister was with was stronger than her but not like huge or anything and one day they got into a fist fight and she couldnt take it anymore and just fought him... it was seriosly like a guy fight.. i watched it happen but she got hit really good a few times but she also hit him pretty good too but it showed him that she wasnt afraid anymore and she would fight back everytime and then he stopped hitting her as much... i know it sounds bad but she also gained alot of confidence standing up for herself like that.

just know that he can not hurt you if you dont allow him to!

do whats right for your children and yourself!

things tend to find away to figure themselves out after you take a stand and do what you know is right!

oh and aslo look up a battered womens program or see if maybe the state can help you financially or something.